Dear Ms Wise, my partner and I have been trying to fall pregnant via IVF, but some $40,000 later, we’ve had no success. My partner wants to stop, citing the emotional and financial costs of this process. But I want to keep going. How can we work this out?

The wisdom: “There’s not much about fertility treatment that isn’t at least tinged with sadness, in my experience,” says Narelle Dickinson, a clinical psychologist who specialises in discussions about fertility.