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‘We’re married but don’t live together – we’d drive each other mad’

‘We’re married but don’t live together – we’d drive each other mad’

One couple describes in detail what it’s like to be together while living mostly apart. It’s worked for 30 years.

Couples who live apart maintain the intimacy and companionship of a relationship without the friction of day-to-day interactions. Getty

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Imagine enjoying all the benefits of a romantic relationship without the complications of living together. For a growing number of over-60s, “living apart, together” (LAT) is proving to be the key to better wellbeing and greater happiness. A study, the largest of its kind, conducted by Lancaster University and UCL, has revealed that this unconventional arrangement offers many older couples the best of both worlds.

The research found that LAT couples maintain the intimacy and companionship of a relationship without the friction of day-to-day interactions that often accompany living under the same roof. From avoiding disagreements about chores to sidestepping care obligations, it’s an arrangement that allows both partners to keep their autonomy without compromising their independence.

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