11 best sex toys for couples
Sexologist Chantelle Otten has revealed how couples can easily ‘expand their sexual menu’ for more fun in the bedroom. WARNING: Adult content.
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Masturbation has definitely come out of the closet in the past few years.
Once considered a major taboo, using sex toys for self-pleasure is starting to be recognised as an important act of self care but the same cannot be said for everyone.
Lovehoney’s 2022 Global Survey found that while almost half of respondents used sex toys during masturbation the numbers dropped significantly for those in relationships.
“There remains that stigma around the use of toys for both male-identifying people and in partnered sex, with only 22 per cent using sex toys for solo play with many thinking it’s for people who have sexual problems, it’s a replacement for your partner or they ruin your sex life,” Lovehoney Ambassador and psycho-sexologist Chantelle Otten told news.com.au.
But in reality sex toys can be a “great addition to your sexual play”, she added.
“The introduction of toys allows you to mix up the way that you receive pleasure and expand your sexual menu when it comes to solo or partner play,” Chantelle said.
“If you try it and don’t like it? Don’t use it again.”
We currently recommend the popular We-Vibe Chorus – this couple’s vibrator is perfect for you and your partner to indulge in, especially if you are in a long-distance relationship.
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BEST SEX TOYS FOR COUPLES
We-Vibe Chorus Galaxy App and Remote Controlled Rechargeable Couple’s Vibrator, $299 at Lovehoney
We-Vibe Chorus Galaxy App and Remote Controlled Rechargeable Couple’s Vibrator
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“A wearable vibrator like the We-Vibe Chorus Galaxy App and Remote Controlled Rechargeable Couple’s Vibrator is great for hands-free pleasure with the device being controlled remotely from the We-Vibe app,” Chantelle said.
“This toy can also be worn during sex with the internal arm fitting inside the vagina, with the penis having room to slide underneath allowing for shared vibrations that benefit each partner.”
One five-star reviewer wrote: “Stealthy satisfaction! Intriguing power within a compact, inconspicuous wearable vibrator, enhanced by an exciting remote control feature, including the delightful squeeze-to-vibrate function! It’s become a favorite, and we love brainstorming creative ways to spice up our experiences—like incorporating it into a dinner date!”
“No complaints! Performed better than either of us expected! I had my doubts, as did my partner, but it worked exactly as stated. We have not yet tried the the Bluetooth capability, however not sure we will need to! Definitely more enjoyable as a pair,” another wrote.
Lovehoney Classic Extra Powerful Massage Wand Vibrator, $99.95 at Lovehoney
Lovehoney Classic Wand 2.0 Extra Powerful Massage Vibrator
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“This multifunctional toy is great for beginners and those who are more experienced with the device being able to be used on external erogenous zones on either person’s body,” says Chantelle.
With a 1.8m cord that means you never have to worry about a low battery, other features include a scroll button for a wide variety of easy to access vibrations.
While some said the wand was noisier than other vibrators, five star reviewers described it as “perfect” and ideal for couples.
“AMAZING! This toy comes out more than any other, the vibrations can either be subtle or teeth rattling. Doesn’t matter if I’m on my own or with my husband. Using it along side a dildo is out of this world, and using it on him is just as fun. Can be abit noisy but it’s 100 per cent worth it,” one wrote.
Girls Get Off Missy, $142 at Girls Get Off
Missy Clitoral Vibrator
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“An external toy like Missy is the perfect way to maintain clitoral stimulation with pulsing and vibrations that are also able to be felt by both parties. It can also be held and controlled by either partner,” says Viv.
“Didn’t think our sex life could get any better because it was already great but my wife and I were shocked at the amazing sex we have had since I gifted her Missy Mini,” one five-star review reads.
“Incredible! Every woman, single or couple needs this in their life!”
Lovehoney Ignite Rechargeable Vibrating Love Ring Aqua, $37.46 (down from $49.95) at Adore Beauty
Lovehoney Ignite Rechargeable Vibrating Love Ring
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“The Lovehoney Ignite Love Ring is a best-selling device that can be used to enhance couples lovemaking, or for fun solo play,” an Adore Beauty spokesperson told news.com.au
Designed to sit at the base of the penis during penetrative sex, this love ring is designed to take your bedroom experience to the next level. Features include three speeds and 17 different vibration patterns as well as being USB rechargeable and 100 per cent waterproof.
Velvetine Ivy, $74.95 at THE ICONIC
Velvetine Ivy
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Ultra quiet to use, this small toy is perfect for elevating your foreplay or solo play. It is USB rechargeable, splash proof and comes with 10 different vibration settings – so you can enjoy yourself at different levels of pleasure.
Wild Weekend Mega Couple’s Sex Toy Kit (11 Piece), $129.95 at Lovehoney
Wild Weekend Mega Couple's Sex Toy Kit (11 Piece)
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“Sex toy kits (like the Wild Weekend Kit) are also a good starting point as you can try a couple of different toys, without spending a fortune, to see what you both like and build up from there,” Chantelle said.
This best-selling kit is ideal for beginners and contains a G-spot vibrator, vibrating rabbit ears, a butt plug, rabbit vibrator, male stroker, anal beads, jiggle balls, rabbit cock ring and a cock ring set.
Wild Secrets Thrill Vibrating Couple’s Ring, $79.99 at Wild Secrets
Wild Secrets Thrill Vibrating Couple's Ring
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It also has a tapered point that can either be pushed back to stimulate the wearer’s prostate and perineum or worn forward to target your partner’s clitoris.
Five star reviews said it “feels really good for both users” and was ideal for “a first time toy user”.
Vush Plump, $70 at Adore Beauty
Vush Plump
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Part of Vush’s Pop collection the Pump is small and discreet enough to pop into your cosmetic bag without raising suspicion, but still packs a punch thanks to its 10 different vibration settings.
LELO Sona, $69.30 (down from $99) at THE ICONIC
LELO Sona
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Take your foreplay game to the next level with the Sona, which uses sonic waves to pulsate the entire clitoris. Whisper quiet, it has eight different sonic intensities as well as being 100 per cent waterproof.
“I purchased this for my wife as a gift. Little did I know. This changed our lives,” one five star review on LELO’s website reads.
“The orgasms are of an intensity that can be perhaps best described as earth shattering. Best toy in our growing collection. Highly recommend!”
Lovense Lush 3 App Controlled Rechargeable Love Egg Vibrator
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The Lush 3 is a definite upgrade with reviewers noting how much more powerful the toy is without compromising on the most important feature - near-silent vibrations. It’s the ideal toy for long-distance relationships or simply to spice things up with your partner.
Hundreds of satisfied couples have left glowing reviews, with one writing, “My partner works away and we have had fun with the toy every day.” Another said, ‘Highly recommend to feel close with loved one even if they’re miles and miles away.”
Lovehoney Ignite 20 Function Finger Vibrator, $49.95 at Lovehoney
Lovehoney Ignite 20 Function Finger Vibrator
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This toy comes with three speeds and 17 thrilling patterns, and it’s small and discreet enough to use during intimate moments without getting in the way.
One enthusiastic reviewer on the Lovehoney site keeps the toy in the bedside drawer, writing “It is great in any position and stays exactly where the wife requires it... it never fail to deliver an explosive orgasm for the wife every time. She has even used it on me and I must admit its a personal fave of mine.”
WHAT TO CONSIDER WHEN BUYING A SEX TOY
When it comes to buying a sex toy, you should consider these factors before making the purchase.
Type: There are a variety of sex toys out in the market so you should decide whether you’re after a sex toy that’s great for internal and external play or solo and shared play.
Target area: Not all sex toys will be suitable for certain areas, so make sure you know if you’re after a toy that is for your clitoral area, anal area or G-spot. You can always check the product descriptions for information on where you can use the toy.
Material: Body-safe materials that are long-lasting, easy to clean and water resistant like medical grade silicone are generally the best choice.
Experience level: If you’re a beginner, toys like rabbit and bullet vibrators are great starting options and if you’re an experienced user, clitorial suction toys, G-spot exploration and anal play would be great to branch out to.
HOW WE CHOOSE PRODUCTS
To help you find the best sex toy for your needs and budget, we asked psycho-sexologist, Chantelle Otten, and Girls Get Off co-founder, Viv Conway, for their expert advice and recommendations on what to look for when buying a sex toy that’s perfect for couples. In addition, our shopping team read hundreds of customer reviews and looked at test results and ratings from product review sites to find the best sex toy from premium to budget to help you and your partner find the right one.
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HOW TO INTRODUCE SEX TOYS INTO YOUR RELATIONSHIP
Introducing sex toys into the bedroom can seem “daunting at first”, but it’s important to have good communication with your partner so you’re able to convey “your desires and what you would like in the bedroom”, Chantelle said.
“Start by floating the idea past your partner and opening lines of communication in a non-confronting way,” she said.
“Try something like ‘I’ve always wanted to try xxxx with you’ or ‘I’ve heard xxxx vibrator is great for couples. Why don’t we give it a try?’.”
Viv suggests bringing it up in conversation casually, saying: “The best way to bring up sex toys in a relationship, especially if you aren’t sure what the response might be, is to ‘blame it’ on, or attritubte it to something else.
“For example you might like to say, ‘I heard about this new sex toy on a podcast yesterday, would you be into trying something like that?’”
When picking out your first sex toy, Chantelle recommends browsing a website together so it’s “a fun activity where you can learn more about each other and your desires” as well as reading reviews and advice guides.
Viv Conway, co-founder of Girls Get Off, told news.com.au the female-focused sex toy brand was seeing “more and more of our audience introduce toys into the bedroom”.
“Previously where sex toys might have been perceived as an enemy or a ‘replacement’, people are realising that this is not the case,” she said.
“It’s better viewed that sex is like ice cream – already great and delicious, but toys can be added as fun toppings to bring something different to the experience.”
BEST WAYS FOR COUPLES TO USE SEX TOYS
Viv recommends couples spend 20 minutes in “foreplay mode” with no penetration but plenty of touching, kissing and a toy of your choice.
“This can be a good time to use anything with a vibrating function (like Tiff) all over the body and erogenous areas to level up the pleasure,” she said.
“If you do decide to move to penetrative sex then toys like the Missy are perfect for clit stim and vibrations that will be felt by a partner.”
Chantelle says couples can use toys to simulate their favourite pleasure areas “even further”, as well as using them to “explore areas that previously haven’t been stimulated”.
“Another fun way for couples to use toys is for edging – when your partner is on the brink of orgasm, decrease the level of stimulation and tease them, focusing on erogenous zones around the genitals and elsewhere to continue stimulation without tipping your partner over the edge,” she said.
“One of the most important things to remember when using sex toys is lube.
“Always add lube – I suggest a water-based lube as these can be used with any toy – to enhance pleasure and make sex more comfortable.”
Meet the Experts
Chantelle Otten, news.com.au checkout Psycho-Sexologist
Chantelle Otten is a Melbourne based Psycho-Sexologist who is passionate about empowering people to feel great about their sexual health, self-esteem, communication and education.
Viv Conway, Co-founder of Girls Get Off
Viv Conway is the co-founder of women’s sexual wellness brand, Girls Get Off. Girls Get Off is on a mission to empower women in all things pleasurable, removing the stigma or taboo that comes with talking about sex toys and getting off.
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