Dating expert tells singles to simply ‘get out more’

SINGLES looking to get back into the dating game just need to get out of the house, according to love guru Matthew Hussey, who also claims building new networks and practising casual conversation are the key to finding a love match.

Fiona Byrne

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July 14, 2018 - 8:11PM

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SINGLES looking to get back into the dating and mating game just need to get out of the house.

That’s the simple, if blunt, advice of love guru Matthew Hussey, who also claims dumping your baggage, building new networks and practising casual conversation are the key to finding your love match.

The British dating coach, who is part of Channel 7’s The Single Wives, will be in Melbourne this week passing on his love tips to lonely Aussies.

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“If you want to kickstart your love life right now, there are some simple things to do. Start leaving the house more, put yourself in environments where there are other people, start more conversations with those people, don’t default to the same kind of conversations you always have, and don’t be afraid to flirt,” Hussey said.

“So much of the early stages of dating is simply telegraphing interest, something we are all afraid to do because none of us want to be rejected.

“Work out so you feel better in your body, take a class in something so you feel you have interesting things to talk about, read books, go watch some new movies, feed your mind with things so when you are around people you are an interesting person to be around.

Nikki and Emma from ‘Single Wives’ at The Langham Melbourne. Picture: David Caird

British dating coach Matthew Hussey. Picture: Instagram

“The simple things work but we don’t do the simple things.”

The dating expert and author said building your confidence made playing the dating game easier.

“Firstly, people have to let go of their story from the past,” he said.

“Everyone has got their baggage or what they think of as baggage; ‘I am a divorcee’, ‘I have kids from a previous marriage’, ‘I was in an emotionally abusive relationship’ or ‘I have been single for 10 years’.

“I think people have to divorce themselves from that and start connecting with the person right in front of them.

“The other thing is people have to start living a more expansive life. They have to start getting out and joining new networks of people.

“I always say ‘think of what you like to do’ — reading, going to the gym — and just do a more sociable version of the thing you already do.

“Lastly, have conversations with people, everyone. It does not matter who it is. If you can sit in a coffee shop and have a conversation with the person to your right … it makes it more likely that when that cute guy or girl walks in you can have a conversation with them. Because you are someone who is open to interacting with people.

“The mistake we all make at times is not talking to anyone and then when the attractive person that we want to talk to walks into the room we seize up. Start being the person you are asking other people to be for you.”

On The Single Wives, whichstarts on Wednesday on Channel 7, Hussey helps four women — Nikki, Sheridan, Sunnie and Emma — find relationships.