Single in Sydney: Now I know why I’m single, dating expert reveals three key ways to meet my match
THINGS get a bit deep, as expert Sarah Davis tells Single in Sydney’s Sarah it’s not about the men. It’s about her. But there are three keys to success.
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JOURNALIST Sarah Swain has been single (but dating) for longer than she cares to remember.
That’s because it’s tough out there, as any single will tell you, so to bring hope to others across the city, she’s sharing her no-holds-barred adventures on the Sydney single scene every Friday.
Week 38 Dating. Three Keys to Success
Last week I was telling you about Sarah Davis, a Sydney dating coach who gave my pals and I an insight into her Soulmate Magnetism course at an event at Ananas in The Rocks.
She reckons she’s helped 200 women find love, and helps people like me who are struggling to meet a match.
She revealed the five reasons she thinks women are still single, despite joining 23 dating apps, going on five dates a week and having bookshelves splitting under the weight of dating books (well, something like that).
And then she moved on. To where we were going wrong.
And we were ask to pen a list of people we’d recently dated, to see what sort of guys we were attracting.
We then had to write down the challenges of that relationship, and why we thought it ended up hitting the skids.
Sounds simple?
Well, it’s remarkable how writing it all down made it easy to see a pattern .
And my page had a bigger pattern than one of those adult colouring books.
I realise I tend to go for the tall dark and handsome types who generally are emotionally unavailable and don’t want a relationship. Blokes who look like Ashton Kutcher.
And it’s a bit depressing.
Do I need to start going for 4ft baldies who look like Mini Me from Austin Powers?
But Davis assures us that once you’ve identified a pattern, you can change it.
And quite frankly, something’s got to change.
But actually, it’s not the men. (Phew!)
It’s me. (What?)
Yes. And apolgies for getting all deep, but Davis tells us all that when we are okay with where we’re at in our lives, we are looking for someone to enhance our life, rather than fill a gap - something many women are guilty of.
And having that type of self-confidence is like a magnet for men.
And while there’s heaps to learn (Davis does entire weekend workshops on this) she does have three simple tips to think about.
Could it really be this easy?
Three Keys to successful dating, by relationship coach Sarah Davis
1 What can you offer a relationship?
What are your special qualities, interests and passions?
2 Don’t settle for bad behaviour
Have clear boundaries about how you want to be treated. Value your worth.
3 Friends First
Set an intention to become friends with each guy you go on a date with. This will take the pressure off. And if you don’t want to be friends, why would you want a relationship? Don’t meet every guy thinking ‘is he the one?’ Guys tell me this comes across — and it comes across as desperate.
It all makes sense. Especially the friends bit.
But there’s not much time to think about it all. Because next, we’re onto flirting tips - and where better to put them into practice than out in the bar?
And with a dating expert as a wing woman, what could possibly go wrong?
Details: Sarah Davis’ half day Soulmate Magnetism workshops cost $49 soulmatemagnetism.com
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