It is all about the frocks. Granted, an Indian wedding is a little about the couple, a lot about the couple’s families and, yes, there is raucous music, choreographed dancing and mountains of food. But really, it’s mostly about the clothes.

Which is why I am gripped with panic when my young friend Reshma invites me to her wedding and, several weeks before the formal invitation arrives, messages me a detailed wardrobe planner. I am no style maven, let alone capable of figuring out how to sling a sari over my shoulder. Four outfits are required for four events across several days, with themes of chic Indian, casual Indian, traditional Indian and glam & glitter. The sartorial choices are a kurti, lehenga or sari for me; a kurta, suit or tux for the hubby.