'My husband is furious that my miscarriage ruined his birthday'

“I understand it came at a f**ing inconvenient time for him, but is it nuts to contemplate divorce?”

A grieving mother has slammed her husband for his behaviour following a heartbreaking pregnancy loss, on his birthday.

She was eight weeks along when her pregnancy took a devastating turn. 

“I’ve never had a miscarriage before and this baby was so wished for,” she shared online.

Just the day before, the couple had seen a strong heartbeat on an ultrasound. But while playing with her two-year-old, the mother began feeling pressure in her lower abdomen.

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"He’d stopped to pick up some beers"

“I noticed bleeding and I let my husband know immediately that I had discomfort. Before long I had passed what I believe is the fetus and I messaged him 'I think I lost the baby,’” she explained. 

“I asked if he could come home and he said ‘of course, if it’s urgent’. I said I think it’s because the pain and bleeding is getting worse and I’m starting to feel lightheaded.” 

It should have taken the father 30 minutes to get home. It took an hour. 

“It was because he’d stopped to pick up some beers,” she revealed. 

She was eventually taken to hospital and discharged with instructions to rest. But that meant their original plans to celebrate his birthday were off the table.

“Last week, I had said I’d make him his favourite dinner for his birthday, which he reminded me of when we were almost home. I said I wasn’t feeling up to it and that whatever takeaway he wants is on me,” she explained.

His response?

“He said ‘for fuck sake’ under his breath and then muttered something along the lines of ‘this bullshit has ruined my birthday',” she recounted.  

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"Husband can go straight in the bin" 

Things have only become worse since then.

“He’s been giving me silent treatment. I tried to speak to him about an hour or so ago and he ignored me and I called him a disgrace,” she explained. 

Feeling abandoned, she turned to Reddit for support. Unsurprisingly, users were quick to rally behind her. 

“Your marriage is over. How long you stay with him is up to you. But this man is neither husband nor father material,” one wrote.

“Husband can go straight in the bin,” another agreed.

“This is not a momentary lapse of judgement, this is a long term failure of character,” a third added. 

His family have also reached out with little sympathy.

“His mum has since messaged me and said I need to be patient as he’s also had a loss. She didn’t ask how I was or anything,” the grieving woman shared. 

“She said I was harsh.”

Now, she’s left feeling raw, unsupported, and emotionally isolated.

“I’m feeling utterly emotionally neglected right now. My body has been through emotional and physical hell. 

“I understand that my miscarriage came at a f**ing inconvenient time for him as it was his birthday and all. I’m not sure if it’s the hormones making me feel crazy but is it nuts to contemplate divorce?”

Originally published as 'My husband is furious that my miscarriage ruined his birthday'