My husband and I wanted to start a family; now I’m pregnant and he doesn’t care

“I am going through this pregnancy all by myself, emotionally and physically.” 

Pregnancy is one of the scariest things a person can experience; when faced with uncertainty and extreme changes in your body, it’s ideal to have someone you love and trust by your side.

That’s what Bianca* thought she had when she announced her pregnancy to her husband, George*. 

In reality, he has been the worst partner to have.

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"When I am feeling sick, vomiting, or in pain, this man shows no concern"

They’d been trying for a baby for over a year, and despite a few rough patches in their relationship, she thought everything was perfect. 

It started when she first fell pregnant. While George attended the first ultrasound with his wife, Bianca was left disappointed by his conduct. 

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“He didn’t want to be there and was on his phone throughout the ultrasound,” she said on Reddit. 

Following the disastrous first ultrasound, Bianca “decided” to keep her husband at arm’s length for every future appointment. 

While she never invited him to another doctor’s appointment or ultrasound, she “would give him updates on what the doctor said”. 

Even then, she explained, her husband would never seem too interested in the updates. 

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“I noticed he never asks about my appointments, how I am doing, or how the baby is doing, so I stopped giving him updates,’ Bianca said. 

“When I am feeling sick, vomiting, or in pain, this man shows no concern,” she confessed. “I am going through this pregnancy all by myself, emotionally and physically.”

Then came the gender reveal party, which Bianca organised herself in their backyard. Of course, George couldn’t care less about the event, telling his wife he “didn’t want to be a part of it”. 

In fact, when Bianca asked about throwing a baby shower, George could only shrug his shoulders and tell his wife that it was “not important”, but instructed her that she wasn’t allowed to host the party in their backyard.

Why? “Because ‘my people killed his grass when I had the gender reveal party’,” she said. 

Interestingly, Bianca explained that her husband has been acting out of character recently. “He was never like this,” she said. “He used to be the most caring, loving, and devoted husband. 

“We weren’t in a good place when I found out I was pregnant, but we had been trying for over a year,” she continued. “I don’t know if he changed his mind during that time.”

It’s apparent George has (perhaps temporarily) abandoned his wife and future child, blatantly ignoring the updates and any signs of distress. So, Bianca has decided to ban him from the delivery room. 

“I don’t want him in the delivery room with me. He’s never shown that he cares or held my hand throughout my pregnancy,” she said. “What is he going to do in the delivery room?”

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“I wouldn’t even want that deadbeat on the same planet as me”

People genuinely couldn’t wrap their heads around this case and wondered why Bianc was even considering staying with her husband after the way he treated her. 

“I wouldn’t even want that deadbeat on the same planet as me,” a person wrote. 

Another was “trying to figure out why she’s having his child to begin with”. 

A third penned: “If he isn’t interested now, he certainly won’t be when the baby actually arrives. I’m not sure why you are even with such a selfish person.”

Everyone agreed that George should be far away from the delivery room, and Bianca’s mother should be by her side. 

“The person giving birth decides who is in the delivery room,” read a comment. “And since your kid's sperm donor is totally checked out, I can see why you don't want him there.

"You should have someone who will support you. If that's your mum, she should be with you.”

*Names have been changed

Originally published as My husband and I wanted to start a family; now I’m pregnant and he doesn’t care