Influencer caught berating pregnant wife for not doing ‘wifely duties’

A conservative commentator has been exposed berating his heavily pregnant wife for not following his orders to do her “wifely” duties.

Disturbing new video shows conservative commentator Steven Crowder warning his then-heavily pregnant wife to “f**king watch it” — while berating her for not following orders to do “wifely” duties.

The Ring footage, released Thursday by journalist Yashar Ali on his Substack, shows a fight in the run-up to what the YouTuber has called a “horrendous divorce”.

While being berated, Crowder’s wife, Hilary, repeatedly tries to reassure her husband that she loves him and is “committed”.

“I love you … but your abuse is sick,” she told him at one point — with him warning sternly: “Watch it. Watch it. F**king watch it.”

Crowder reportedly admitted to later inside the house threatening his wife: “I will f**k you up.”

The three-minute video, from June 2021, starts with Crowder smoking as he berates Hilary — who was eight months pregnant with their twins — for not adhering to the “boundaries” he had set for her.

“You are not taking the car, because if you refuse to do wifely things then I will go pick up the groceries,” he tells his wife as she tries to leave their home.

Crowder accused his wife of failing to do “wifely things.” Picture: yashar.substack.com

His distressed wife quietly notes that they do not need groceries, and offers to pick up anything he needs while she is out.

Still, the influencer snaps: “I can’t go to the gym. I can’t go to my parents. I can’t call my friends. … Hilary, just think of how boxed in you’ve made me!”

As his wife breathes deeply and appears to fight back tears, the online personality tells her that “the only way out of it is discipline and respect.”

Again offering to get her husband’s grocery needs, Hilary says she needs “some space,” telling him: “I love you — I love you very much.”

Crowder recently talked about his “horrendous divorce” from Hilary, whom he married in 2012. Instagram/@louderwithcrowder

The pair were married in 2012 and separated shortly after their twins were born in 2021. Instagram/@louderwithcrowder

“I don’t love you, that’s the big problem,” Crowder replies cruelly.

“And the fact is, when I go, ‘Look, I need you to do A, B, C and D,’ you should be disciplined about it, you go, ‘No!’” he complained — ordering her to “become worthy — wife worthy.”

“I love you. I’m committed to you,” his wife tells Crowder, who snaps: “Put on some gloves. Are you committed enough to do those things? … walk the dogs and put on some gloves.

“Are you committed enough to get the medication?” he asks, referring to what the report said was a treatment for the dogs that Hilary feared would be toxic for pregnant women.

Crowder’s wife was reportedly concerned that medicine one of the dogs needed was toxic to pregnant women. Instagram/@louderwithcrowder

Crowder admitted on audio to his “f**k you up” threat after the couple went inside the house, realising he went too far, Ali said. Still, it was pivotal to his wife’s decision to finally file for divorce months later.

Before then, she gave birth to their twins in August 2021 — but Crowder “chose not to be with his wife during the birth of their twin children”, Hilary’s family told Ali.

“The truth is that Hilary spent years hiding Steven’s mentally and emotionally abusive behaviour from her friends and family while she attempted to save their marriage,” the family alleged.

Crowder — perhaps best known for a viral meme of him sitting behind a desk with the sign “Change my mind” — has yet to address the footage.

Crowder went on to attack Texas divorce laws. YouTube/StevenCrowder

However, he told his “Louder With Crowder” audience earlier this week about his “horrendous divorce,” hinting at enemies trying to shame and extort him over it.

“It’s been the most heartbreaking experience in my life,” he said, calling the divorce “my deepest personal failure.”

“I’ve always believed children need a mum and a dad and that divorce is horrible. And I still believe that children need a mum and a dad and that divorce is horrible.

“But in today’s legal system, my beliefs don’t matter,” he complained, repeatedly attacking Texas laws allowing his wife to leave without proving blame.

“It’s no one else’s fault but my own … I picked wrong,” he said of the now-ex he married in 2012.

Crowder did not immediately respond to messages Friday.

This article was originally published by the New York Post and reproduced with permission