Jana Hocking on the ‘gross’ type of man who’s ‘everywhere’

A new reality TV show has highlighted the “gross” type of man who’s “everywhere”, says Jana Hocking.

Yesterday I dedicated two hours of my life to a new reality TV show that highlights something I have known for a long time. There are fboys everywhere.

And they are ridiculously good at passing as good guys during the initial chase. In fact, you would need a degree in psychology to even attempt to spot them at the start.

They are smart, charming, good looking and full of confidence. I mean, they sound like a catch, right?!

The problem is underneath all that they are hurt little boys with a targeted anger towards women that is constantly brimming just under the surface.

The show is called FBoy Island on Binge*, and aside from being ridiculously entertaining, it is also a fascinating look at these fboys in the wild.

Jana Hocking.

The best example is through the eyes of the villain of the show, Caleb, who is the king c**k of the bunch. One particular scene shows contestant Molly opening up to him about her fiance cheating on her with another woman.

He comforts her and tells her he is sorry that happened, but jump forward to the next scene, and he is telling one of the other dudes that the reason she must have been cheated on was because she “didn’t have [a] good p*ssy”. Further explaining that apparently men don’t cheat if their woman has “good p*ssy”. But wait … there’s more! He then had a checklist on what makes “good p*ssy”.

Apparently, it comes down to the girl’s “PH levels” (I kid you not!) and how well they treat their men.

What’s that sound … oh, it’s a million women sighing in despair at the level of douchebaggery.

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The cast of FBoy Island. Picture: Supplied

Now I’d like to say I’ve experienced one guy like this in my dating life – but oh no, they’re everywhere. And I place most of the blame on a toxic book written by a professional pick-up artist called Neil Strauss.

It’s called The Game, and back in the early 2000s it taught men some really creepy ways to seduce women. It involved treating us hot and cold in the hope that we would become confused and try and win the guy’s affection. One minute telling us we’re beautiful and then the next subtly throwing a negative comment our way, like: “Oh, I never noticed your teeth were crooked.”

It’s such a gross book, but so many men read it – seriously, it was a bestseller – and used the techniques on dates. I remember one guy telling me my job was “cute” and my “squinty eyes” were adorable. (A highly popular “trick” from the game.)

I had another guy rock up to a date roughly 20 kgs heavier than his dating app pic and swearing profusely during the date. That didn’t stop him from hitting me with negative comments on my appearance, my voice, my career choice and my general outlook on life.

The first thing I think of when I see Andrew Tate is, ‘Oh Lord, who hurt you?’. Picture: Twitter

What I do know is he is deeply threatened by a female sharing her sexual adventures. Picture: Instagram

What it all comes down to are these men are broken and deeply insecure. I mean, the first thing I think of when I see Andrew Tate is, “Oh Lord, who hurt you?”

You see, there are two options a man is faced with when he gets dumped. He can choose to reflect on the part he played in the demise of the relationship and choose acceptance, or he can just get really, really angry.

And what we are seeing on this show are men who choose the second option. Something has happened in their formative years that has made them hate women, and they choose to take it out on any future female that comes within their perimeter.

Take, for example, last night – when I had a guy slide into my Instagram DMs and tell me I’m a cheap whore because I dare to write about the joys of sex.

My first reaction was one of anger. But realistically, that message isn’t solely about me. Heck, I don’t even know the dude – but what I do know is he is deeply threatened by a female sharing her sexual adventures. He was triggered enough to hunt me down on Instagram and shoot a venomous message my way.

Why? Because he’s angry at the world and I seemed like an easy target.

Hold your heads strong, ladies.

Good Lord, there’s even a creepy YouTuber in America who had dedicated far too much time dissecting my articles on his channel to his half-a-million followers, giving the videos headlines such as, Jana Hocking shocked that she’s hit a wall. (That particular one was viewed by over 400,000 people – bonkers!)

Dig a little deeper and you will discover the guy who runs the channel is a short, bald man who lives in his parents’ basement. Now, I’m no therapist, but I’m guessing he got turned down from one too many dates and decided to dedicate his life to a YouTube channel that spurns hatred towards women.

These guys are everywhere.

So hold your heads strong, ladies, because while there are some brilliant men out there, you’ve just got to weed them out from the very angry, hurt little boys passing off as men these days.

And to the men out there who are pondering if they have certain fboy qualities, may I introduce you to a fabulous remedy called therapy. Embrace it dear gents. Your future selves will thank you for it.

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Jana Hocking is a columnist and collector of kind-of-boyfriends | @jana_hocking