Young Aussie opens up about plan to be ‘single mum by choice’ and why she is selling her home

A young Aussie has revealed the wild reason she’s planning to sell her home and why she needs to “lessen her expenses” as she prepares for a big life change.

Dallas Rayne is selling her home to “lessen her expenses” as she prepares to become a single mother.

The 33-year-old has enough equity in her Melbourne home to put it on the market and buy something closer to her family.

“I will buy another property less investment rental and more appropriate for me and my child,” she told news.com.au.

Ms Rayne’s decision to enter motherhood on her own stems from two things.

She’s desperate to become a mum, and she knows she can’t wait because she has endometriosis, which can make it more difficult to conceive.

One in nine people suffer from endometriosis, a condition where tissue similar to that which normally lines the uterus grows in other parts of the body, usually the pelvic region.

For the nearly one million people living with it across Australia – along with the countless others thought to be suffering in silence – symptoms like excruciating pain, fatigue, excessive bleeding and infertility are something they are often forced to manage daily.

The 33-year-old didn’t find out she even had endometriosis until 2023, when she decided to go off birth control.

“I’m grateful I started now and not when I’m 39, and I’m glad I’m doing it by myself because I can’t wait for a relationship, an engagement, or a wedding,” she said.

“I don’t have five or 10 years to waste.”

She's going to become a single mum by choice. Picture: Instagram/ the_reel_dallasrayne

The experience has been eye-opening. Picture: Instagram/the_reel_dallasrayne

Just having endometriosis can come with a financial burden that others don’t have to consider, not only with getting diagnosed and receiving ongoing treatment, but also when it comes to the fertility struggles patients often endure.

Earlier this year, news.com.au surveyed more than 17000 people who suffer from endometriosis as part of the About Bloody Time campaign.

From those responses, 8.8 per cent – almost one in 10 – revealed they had spent more than $50,000 on treatment and medical appointments as a result of their endometriosis journey.

Almost a third of respondents, 31.2 per cent, estimated they have spent between $5000 and $20,000 and a further 12.2 per cent put the cost between $20,000 and $50,000.

‘Creepy’ response after sharing journey online

Ms Rayne said she still feels like it isn’t “socially acceptable” to have a child on your own, but she will be a “single mum by choice” and feels fully prepared to do it on her own.

At the moment, she’s trying naturally, but she’s found it hard to find Aussie sperm donors.

In Australia, it is illegal to buy or sell any human tissue, including sperm, eggs or embryos, so if she does find someone, she can’t offer them financial compensation.

It is further complicated by the fact that there aren’t clear-cut laws on whether a sperm donor could become potentially financially responsible.

It depends on whether they are concerned with being a “liable parent” in the eyes of Australian law, which can depend on a range of factors.

“It is free, but there’s a lack of Aussie men that want to donate because the government doesn’t protect them, and they could be liable for child support,” she explained.

“So what Aussie man is going to donate?”

She's also making changes to be prepared to be a mum, such as selling her home. Picture: Supplied

She's very excited to become a mum. Picture: Supplied

Ms Rayne said that there are so many women going through the same thing and are often stuck waiting for months because they need to gain access to international sperm donations.

“They are frustrated, because they have to wait six months because it needs to be shipped in,” she said.

The 33-year-old said she’s also frustrated with the response she gets online.

She’s been sharing her journey on social media and, while there’s a large female community that is there to cheer her on, she’s often hit with “creepy” comments from men.

“The men online tend to sexualise sperm donation. If you wanted to donate blood, you wouldn’t expect to have a sexual relationship with the person you’re donating to,” she said.

Often, Australian men will reply and offer up their sperm, but only if they could do it the “natural way”, which horrifies Ms Rayne.

“They are uneducated but it is a bit creepy,” she said.

People also tell her that what she is doing isn’t “natural”, in the best interest of the child, or is selfish.

These are comments that frustrate Ms Rayne because she’s reshaping her life to prepare to be a mum.

At the end of the day, she feels like she’s a “smart, independent woman preparing for the future”, and that should be celebrated.