My husband is leaving me with the kids for a second New Year's Eve in a row

"It's more evidence that I'm not loved, I'm not the person he wants to be with."

When Christmas is over and it's time to look forward to some New Year's Eve fun, it seems that couples can find themselves with a dilemma.

The internet is full of stories of people who can't agree on how to celebrate the night; and this most recent post is no different.

And it's also a little heartbreaking.

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"He'd happily leave me at home"

A woman asked on a parenting forum whether she was right to feel upset in her situation. She wrote:

"Married with two tween kids, relationship not great, but I always seem to be waiting for signs that all be well eventually.

"DH (darling husband) asked what are we doing for new year's, I know it's late to planning it, but honestly I just thought it would be nice to have some fizz and a fun evening at home."

But the woman's husband revealed he had other plans in mind.

"He said, ideally he'd like to get a babysitter and go to the pub (a fun one with DJs and cocktails) with me and another single friend of his in town. And if we can't do that then we would have a drink at home and then he'd go to said pub with said friend in town and I would stay at home 'like last year'.

"I'd honestly erased this from my memory, but now I remember that is what happened, and I was hurt last year. And now I feel hurt again. I just feel it's more evidence that I'm not loved, I'm not the person he wants to be with."

The wife admitted she was also confused.

"He would always make a thing of how much he hated new year, the pressure of it, and I agreed, but actually he does want to 'do' something and so much so that he'd happily leave me at home on my own two years in a row."

"Have a nice evening anyway"

Many commenters responding to the post urged the woman to take action.

"Why is it you that stays at home again? What would happen if you said you wanted him to stay at home with you? Or even better if you wanted to make plans with friends and he has to stay at home?

"If you keep allowing this it will continue. He is doing it because he can get away with it and there are no consequences," read one post.

Another said, "Just say no, I don't want to stay at home on my own again, we can't get a sitter so it would be nice if we spent it together indoors.

"Why is his friend's preference more important than yours?"

Finally, there was this brutal suggestion: "Do you have any couple friends/family friends that you could invite over? Let the f*cker go out with his single mate and have a nice evening anyway.

"And then think about what you need and what he's not giving to the relationship."

Originally published as My husband is leaving me with the kids for a second New Year's Eve in a row