How your personality type determines your sex life

A love and relationship coach has revealed how your personality type determines your sexual preferences - and how you can better please your partner in the bedroom.

We know how certain personalities work in dynamics of the office, at home or with friends, but have you ever wondered how it affects your sex life?

We take a look at the 16 Myers-Briggs Personality Types to help you find out more about you and your partner’s bedroom habits.

Inspector

They are quiet, serious and respect tradition; ISTJ’s are dependable, practical and responsible, working toward a goal with hard work and patience. The Inspector is very loyal and loves to focus on old-world values – sex is only for the bedroom with their long-term lover between the sheets: no toys, chains or hot wax allowed.

Knowing your Myers-Briggs Personality Type can say a lot about what you’re like in bed. Picture: iStock

Nurturer

Friendly, reserved and conscientious, ISFJ’s thorough, considerate and caring nature for how others feel is unparalleled. Very generous beings, they strive for harmony and want others to feel good – the Nurturer is unselfish in life and the bedroom, making sure their partner is well taken care of in all aspects, even if their own needs aren’t met.

Counsellor

Organised and decisive, INFJ’s care about others and want to know what makes them tick. They add a creative flare while looking at the world differently. With a fresh outlook on life, the Counsellor is down to try new things and is eager to find out exactly what makes their partner go crazy in bed.

Counsellors will make their partner go crazy in bed (in a good way). Picture: Supplied

Mastermind

Ready to achieve their goals but more than happy to do it solo, INTJ’s are reserved and observe what’s around them – they’re sceptical and independent with high standards. Mastermind’s prefer to take care of themselves on their own or take the lead with their partner so their own bedroom fantasies can unfold perfectly.

Craftsman

Quick to solve a problem but quietly observes, ISTP’s are mysterious but use rationale when needed. They’re unpredictable behind the scenes as they put on a more preserved front. A Craftsman might seem shy at first, but once they get in the sheets their spontaneity has their lover taken by surprise (in the best way).

Craftsmen might appear shy at first but they will take their lovers by surprise in the sheets. Picture: iStock

Composer

Friendly, sensitive and kind, they’re introverts that don’t seem that way. ISFP’s enjoy their own space but love socialising and are ready for new adventures. Composers hate conflict and love to give people a good time, so in the bedroom they’ll be up for a new experience and a nice cuddle afterwards.

Idealist

Flexible, quiet and loyal to their values, INFP’s observe signs and omens, looking for deeper meaning than taking something for face value. They’re curious about those around them and often daydream or fantasise – Idealist’s will make their partner’s needs a priority for a night of exploring and satisfying each other.

Thinker

Quiet, contained and adaptable, they have brilliant minds that seek logic. INTP’s are highly focused and can easily read people – the Thinker would take every move into consideration and use their partner’s body language to read what they do and don’t like in the bedroom.

Thinkers will use their partner’s body language to read what they do and don’t like in the bedroom. Picture: iStock.

Doer

Social, spontaneous and hands-on, they are energetic and do before they think. Fixing problems as they go, ESTP’s would rather be active than wait – Doer’s are sexually open in the bedroom, ready at a moment’s notice any time at any place, they’ll take a risk for pleasure and worry about the consequences later.

Performer

Loving life and they don’t care who knows it, ESFP’s are outgoing, friendly people who are realistic and make everything fun. They work best with others and love to learn and share. The Performer’s generosity and warmth is appreciated by their lover and always turns out to be a fun (and loud) experience.

Performers are generous and warm towards their lovers. Picture: iStock

Champion

Intuitive, flexible and real, these personality types can see through fake people and make connections in their mind quickly. They’re able to improvise and create their own paths, using more thought than feeling – ENFP’s live life outside the square. A Champion in the bedroom loves to be praised for their efforts, and are definitely down for a fun night if you are.

Visionary

Highly intelligent and quick thinking, ENTP’s are outspoken and get easily bored by routine. They don’t enjoy other people’s company much for extroverts and need to be constantly stimulated – Visionary’s will rarely do the same thing twice in life and the bedroom, so their partner will always be greeted by new ways of getting down and dirty but might need toys or stimulants for support.

Supervisor

Traditional and realistic, these extroverts are loyal to routine and logic while guiding people in social situations. Usually the leaders of the pack, ESTJ’s looks out for others – the Supervisor will ensure their partner is having a pleasure-filled time and will see to it they are satisfied to the end.

Supervisors will ensure their partner is having a pleasure-filled time and will see to it they are satisfied to the end. Picture: iStock.

Provider

Dedicated to others and like to be appreciated, ESFJ’s are social butterflies that enjoy the spotlight but still feel the need to help someone. Harmony is a must and it can only come from their organisational skill set – Provider’s in the bedroom will do just that, provide. They give their lover what they need and make sure they are satisfied and vocal, they love the attention.

Giver

Outspoken, charismatic and empathetic, they want to connect with anyone and everyone. ENFJ’s love focusing on what the future holds and rely on their intuition to show them the way – a Giver loves feedback and will focus on connecting on a deeper level with their partner.

Commander

Natural born leaders that are frank and logical, ENTJ’s are all about setting goals and rising to the challenge, eager to push themselves. Great decision-making skills and cannot sit still, Commander’s in the bedroom will want to get things done the right way (their way) and take the lead for the night.

This story originally appeared in Body + Soul and has been reproduced with permission.

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