My friend asked me to be a bridesmaid, but the dress code has me in a tailspin

“If I received this theme I’d be checking with the other girls, making sure I wasn’t being set up.”

*Sophie's friend Georgia* has always been a non-traditional kind of person.

They’ve been friends for years, and everything Georgia does has been to her own taste, no matter what people think. 

So when she asked Sophie to be a bridesmaid at her upcoming wedding, there was no doubt how her friend would reply. 

But it was the bridesmaid’s dress code that really got the internet into a tailspin.

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The final two dress options. Picture: Reddit

Bridesmaid dresses must adhere to very strict rules

The wedding is going to be pretty low-key, she explained and is supposed to break a few of the traditional wedding rules. 

“So, this is not at all a traditional wedding,” Sophie said on Reddit. 

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“The actual ceremony is going to be a break in the reception, to be performed under the full moon.” 

None of the bridal parties are particularly religious, so they also plan to introduce a “more witchy ceremony”.

Which brings us to the bridesmaids and their outfit request for the event. 

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“As ridiculous as this sounds, my friend gave us bridesmaids two requirements for our dresses,” Sophie wrote. 

The first rule is that the dresses must be black, which doesn’t seem too out of the ordinary, especially considering how nontraditional the event would be.  

The second rule, however, certainly raised some eyebrows online. The bridesmaid dresses the girls choose “must fit the theme ‘hot wh*re’”. 

Yep, that’s the actual theme. 

Attached were two photos of the dresses Sophie had been considering for the wedding, both matching the criteria down to the finest details. 

They were laden with cut-outs and body-clinging fabrics, perfectly matching the theme. 

But how did Sophie feel about the theme? 

Well, it turns out she’s fully on board. “[The bride] wants us to look sexy, and we’re all game,” she said. “All of us are super down to look hot as hell for her big day. We don’t personally feel degraded by it.” 

Well, there you go!

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“I wonder what grandma is going to wear?”

Initially, people were shocked by the dress theme, labelling it as “embarrassing” and “disturbing.” 

“Oh good lord,” someone wrote. “Hot wh*re? Really?”

“Man, you have some evil friends,” said another. “I hope the bride doesn’t expect you to perform the duties associated with the disturbing dress code,” a third wrote. 

“Ick to that dress code,” a person chimed in. “If I received this theme I’d be checking with the other girls, making sure I wasn’t being set up.” 

“I'm giggling away at this dress code,” a comment read. “I wonder what grandma is going to wear?” 

However, not everyone was negative, with some championing the idea of a wedding that encourages the party to feel good about themselves. 

“It might not be your style or your thing, but there are so many female friend groups in their early 20s who are embracing their sluttiness and having fun with it,” a person defended.

“So many killjoys, this instruction is hilarious, and I love this for y’all,” another agreed. “I wish I were invited to this wedding; it sounds super fun!”

*Names have been changed

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