'This is f'ing brilliant!' Mum's unique rules for newborn visitors

"It’s an inform, not a discussion. Your baby, your rules!"

Setting hard and fast rules or 'boundaries' for family and friends when visiting your newborn can cause a stir. However, one mum has shared her unique method that has mums so impressed, they want the template!

New mum Jennifer Chang pushed her creativity to the limit when she created a one-of-a-kind ticket for her friends and family who wanted to meet her newborn son, Lucas. 

She says, "If you're having a baby soon and want to set some boundaries but don't quite know how to communicate it, here's an idea."

"I treated it like my baby was having a concert, and y'all were going to get tickets." 

Post-pandemic, many new parents have chosen to keep their newborns away from visitors in the first few weeks, especially if they're born in the winter months. Jennifer was no different. 

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"Exclusivity leg: Arrival to 4 weeks"

"I firmly wanted a newborn bubble, the first four weeks. So the first weeks, there were no tickets available," the new mum shared. 

There was a small window of opportunity if family or friends were desperate! 

"You can say 'hi' through porch drop-off or just come up to the window." 

"Weeks five through 12 was when we wanted to start entertaining some visitors. But we still wanted to set some boundaries."

Visitors were politely informed that they had a choice when it came to their experience. They would be given a VIP ticket to hold the baby if they wore masks. If not,they could go and observe.  

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"We had VIP tickets, meet and greet if you want to hold him. These are the rules that we wanted to set."

Regardless of status, visitors had to follow several terms and conditions. There was an age limit rule, not because of alcohol service; they didn't want the "germs from daycare."

"All ticket holders will be 21+, will not kiss Lucas, will reschedule ticket date if feeling ill, and will be required to have the most up-to-date Flu and COVID vaccines and TDAP (whooping cough) within the last five years. All vaccines to be completed 14+ days before ticket date. No exceptions!"

And read the fine print for those who thought a VIP ticket was enough to pick up the newborn baby.

"VIP Meet & Greet does not guarantee holding Lucas if he is fussy or asleep. Waking windows will be respected."

"If you come over, we're not going to wake him; that's just not happening!"

The mother also wanted to cover herself if she chose to change her mind about any of the rules and regulations of the concert. And there was only one method for getting a hand on those tickets (and no, it's not waiting on the refresh page on Ticketek). It was via "Mum and Dad", aka Jennifer and Andrew. 

"Ticket availability and terms subject to change." Got it! 

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Did anyone want tickets?

"We sent it to all our family and friends and everyone was so respectful," she says at the end of the video. 

Likewise, the internet was frothing for these tickets, not to see Lucas, but to be able to re-create these for themselves. 

"Omg, I want this template!" one mamma to be wrote. 

"Okay, why do I love this idea so much? Unique yet makes it fun," another added. 

"Can you send the template? I want to do this so bad, lol," asked an expectant mum.  

A fourth added, "This is going to save many of us from serious anxiety."

Others wished they had had this when they had newborns. 

"Love this idea, especially with winter babies! I’ve got two kiddos at home who bring in a different virus every few weeks, but I’d love to make sure the adults visiting after baby three are up to date on their vaccines. It’s funny how I worry about a few people who would scoff at the vaccine requirements and then think, 'If they think it’s unnecessary, then they’re not the kind of people I’d want around our family anyways!'" one wrote. 

"Guess what? Postpartum anxiety got me good, and we ended up staying in the newborn bubble for like 9 weeks. And everyone was cool with it!" another mother added. 

The bottom line is, if you visit a newborn, please respect the parent's wishes. Otherwise, you will most likely have your ticket revoked! 

Originally published as 'This is f'ing brilliant!' Mum's unique rules for newborn visitors