Christie Jacobsen speaks out in wake of daughter, Isla Marschke’s suicide
In an incredible show of resilience, the mother of a 14-year-old former private school student and accomplished dancer who tragically took her own life, has shared a surprising message. *Distressing.
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The mother of 14-year-old Isla Marschke, who was the target of social media bullying, says she does not blame anyone for her daughter’s death.
Isla, who was a former student at the Shalom Catholic College in Bundaberg and a passionate dancer at TNT Dance Studio, tragically took her own life on Tuesday after years of online torment and mental health struggles.
However, showing stunning resilience on Saturday, Isla’s mum, Christie Jacobsen made public statement on her Facebook page that said she did not blame anyone or any service for her daughter's death.
Instead, she said it was “a terrible tragedy”.
“She had a combination of factors that led her to make the decisions she did,” she wrote.
“I did experience great difficulties in our regional town, sourcing timely help from professionals and was constantly told of limitations due to her age or waiting lists.
“I wanted to highlight rather than blame.
“We blame no one. We just now need to find a way forward,” Ms Jacobsen said.
Isla had left Shalom College to be homeschooled in May this year.
Former principal, Daniel McMahon, this week revealed the steps the college was now taking to find solace and healing in the wake of the tragedy.
Mr McMahon said teachers had delivered a consistent message to students to ensure the entire school received the same information.
This included a dedicated “time out,” space staffed by the school’s full-time counsellors.
Additionally, he communicated with parents to share support services and also spoke of Isla at a college assembly.
The college will also honour Isla with a memorial plaque and tree in its Memorial Garden, for all students the school has lost and hold a bake sale to raise funds for Isla’s family.
Isla was found in her family’s backyard on Tuesday by her mother and brother, who desperately tried to save her.
A short note left behind read: “I’m sorry, I love you, mum”.
Her family has since shared their grief and love for Isla through social media and fundraising efforts.
“I live in a regional town and I went for months and months, desperately trying to find a child psychologist who could help my daughter,” Ms Jacobsen said.
“But I was constantly turned away because she was too young or their books were full.
“Follow-up care was almost impossible.
“I can’t tell you the amount of instances I would ask for help and be told ‘no, no, no’.
‘While this was happening she was also receiving some bullying and experiencing family dynamic issues,’ Ms Jacobsen said.
Isla’s brother, Rafe Marschke, said he had to stay calm so he could help his mum after finding Isla.
“I don’t know what to say.
“My mum found her, and I came out not long after she found her … it is the worst thing that anyone could ever experience.”
Mr McMahon said Isla “undoubtedly” experienced bullying at the school.
“A couple of individuals of whom I am aware, are not students at this school. Kids have to navigate some bullying sadly,” he said, adding his college worked hard to get on top of issues when made aware of them and but also, that Isla’s personal circumstances were complex.
“She and her family were brave enough to report some of that to us and we addressed situations at the time, strongly,” he said.
“She was in pain from multiple and complex issues as is the case with many people.
“Trying to pin blame on an individual or individuals might make some feel some satisfaction but it is not helpful and not accurate.
“I would much prefer to put energy into helping young people have the courage to reach out for help when they need it and having that help readily available,” he said.
Isla’s sister, Ava Marschke, created a GoFundMe page to help with funeral expenses.
“We are heartbroken to share that our beloved sister, Isla, has tragically ended her life.
“In this difficult time, we are reaching out for support to cover the costs of her funeral and related expenses over the next couple of weeks as we recover.
“Isla at her best of times was a light in our lives, and we really want to honour her memory with a beautiful farewell.”
The GoFundMe page had raised $58,435 raised from 864 donations as of Saturday morning.
Isla’s family member, Andy McLucas, thanked people on social media for their support.
“No words can express how loved this beautiful girl was by so many,” he said.
Isla’s dance studio, TNT Dance Studio Bundaberg, posted a tribute on Facebook, recalling her joy and passion for dance.
“Isla joined TNT in January of 2024, competed in her first Hip Hop Solo at a dance competition, performed in numerous routines in our concert last month, and brought a smile and fun-loving attitude to class.”
The family has expressed great appreciation for the support they’ve received from the community during this difficult time.
Isla’s funeral details are yet to be finalised, but her family remains grateful for the support during this devastating period.
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