'Stop having so many f****ing kids': Woman blasts parents wanting big families

"If you think that’s an unrealistic parenting ask, you are the problem.”

We all know the saying 'the more, the merrier,' but there are definitely times when that’s a total, utter lie.

One woman on TikTok is going viral for sharing the perfect example.

Madison is one of eight siblings, and she’s urging parents to “stop having so many f**ing kids.”

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"Love may multiply, but time doesn't" 

“You cannot have half a dozen plus kids and be adequately meeting each one of those child’s needs,” she said.

And she has the receipts to back it up. As the oldest of her siblings, Madison grew up experiencing the reality of life in a big family and she’s not romanticising it.

“There are two things that people who want to have, or do have, that many kids like to say when this is brought up. Number one, they like to say ‘love doesn’t divide, it multiplies,’ and number two, they like to say ‘everybody’s different and some people can make it work,’” she explains.

But Madison disagrees with both.

“Love may multiply, but time doesn’t and children need time,” she argues.

“When you have two kids, you can give them each an hour of uninterrupted one-on-one time a day, and that would take you two hours. When you have eight kids, like my parents did, that would take up eight hours every single day.”

She reveals that growing up, one-on-one time with her mum happened only twice a year.

Madison does acknowledge that some kids from big families might say they enjoyed it, but she warns against assuming that means everyone did.

“There is no large family out there where every child will tell you they enjoyed it and that’s what should matter,” she says.

“When you have that many, there’s going to be more than one who are suffering in the situation you put them in.” 

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"My needs were NEVER met" 

Her comment section echoed her thoughts loud and clear.

“Unpopular opinion: once the kids outnumber the parents, it’s too many,” one person said.

Another added, “I’m the oldest of six. Four is honestly pushing it.”

“I have nine siblings. Fourth born. My needs were NEVER met, besides being fed,” a third shared.

But not everyone agreed.

“I’m one of six and I just disagree. The best gift I have in the world is my siblings, and I don’t feel they interfered at all with my relationship with my parents,” one commenter wrote.

Madison closed out her video with a challenge to parents:

“Think about: can I spend one hour of one-on-one, uninterrupted time a day with each of my children? Or is that becoming too much to ask? If you think that’s an unrealistic parenting ask then you are the problem,” she said.

Originally published as 'Stop having so many f****ing kids': Woman blasts parents wanting big families