My mum is my best friend, and I'm not ashamed to say it

"If I called my husband as much as I do my mother, he'd divorce me."

We're not to admit this as adults, but my mum is my best friend.

We've always had a strong bond, but the truth is, as I've grown older, our relationship has evolved into something truly unique and special. 

All the elements of a friendship are there - trust, respect, and genuine enjoyment of each other.

How lucky are we? So why is it considered 'uncool' to have a family member as a best friend? 

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"At least 10 calls a day"

Now that I have three kids, she is my go-to every single day, multiple times a day. 

If I am in a jam and need her, she will drop anything (within reason, don't mess with her hair appointments). Or she's just there to lend an ear when I'm driving, telling her I'm about to do a thing, calling her after I do the thing, thinking of something random that I needed to air, the kids saying something funny, or just to babble about absolutely nothing.  

I often joke, "If I called my husband as much as I do my mother, he'd divorce me."

And it's true. 

She's my first phone call of the morning, and on a relatively quiet day, it would be the first of about 10. 

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"Why does Taylor get so much hate for it?"

Which leads me to wonder why Taylor Swift gets backlash for always being with her parents? For inviting them everywhere? Isn't that an amazing thing for her to do? Why do people think it's 'uncool'?

What is so wrong with having your mother or father as your best friend when you're an adult?

My friends and I love them, but in our current life stages, we are up to our eyeballs busy with our kids, their schedules and activities, tantrums, fussy eating, or not sleeping. We barely return one another's texts, let alone a phone call or an in-person visit. 

Mum is always on board to help with the kids. When she comes over, or we go over to her place, I feel like I can take a step down from the position of being an adult and slip comfortably into a child—well, not quite a child. Instead, I feel nurtured—I can exhale knowing someone has my back. 

Our relationship has inspired a podcast where we discuss the unique dynamics of mothers and daughters. After each recording, our guests express their gratitude for the opportunity to share their stories. It's a reminder of the importance of acknowledging and appreciating the role our mothers play in our lives. 

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“I love my friends, but I’m happy to hang with my mama”

It's not that I would cancel plans with friends for my mum. But when I think about who I want to go with when it comes to concerts, tickets to Dolly Alderton, and movie nights (yes, I'm talking about Wicked), Mum is my ride-or-die.

With family holidays, their attendance is mandatory. Of course, with three young kids, my parents' attendance is mandatory. But I also genuinely want them there. I love being in their company, going out for dinner, shopping, sitting poolside, and creating memories with the kids. 

Ultimately, isn't that what family is all about?  

For daughters or sons reading this, if you haven't called your mum today, call her! It's cool to call her - I promise!

Originally published as My mum is my best friend, and I'm not ashamed to say it