‘He blocked me when he found out I was pregnant, now my 6yo wants to meet him’

“If he met her, I know he’d fall in love with her too because she’s just so amazing,” mum Trisha says.

Alexandra Feiam

3 min read

September 1, 2023 - 8:16AM

Trish's ex doesn't want anything to do with his daughter. Source: iStock

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Trish* was only three months into her pregnancy when she and her partner split up.

Admitting it was a one-night stand, Trish explained he acted like nothing was wrong in the first few months but made it clear he didn’t want the baby.

He left only 12 weeks into her pregnancy, instructing her to let him know when the baby was born.

Then he blocked her on every social media platform.

Trish's ex doesn't want anything to do with his daughter. Source: iStock

Man blocked his ex three months into pregnancy

When she found out he blocked her, she didn’t want to push things as she was already stressed from the troublesome pregnancy.

“My daughter also had some health problems early on in my pregnancy, I found out,” the Canadian told Reddit.

“I also made it clear to him from the beginning I didn’t expect child support because I knew he was going to school,” she added.

When her daughter, Lulu*, was born she followed his instructions and sent him a message on Facebook after noticing his profile was set to private.

That didn’t go well - he read her message and immediately blocked her again.

“I only had said if he wants, he can come do a DNA test if that was the issue,” she began. “...and that even him being involved in a small way would be great, but that I didn’t want to chase him.”

That was six years ago, and Trish hadn’t reached out to him since.

Lulu, who was suffering from health problems in her early years, was now “thriving” and was described as “literally the best kid in the world.”

Throughout her childhood, Trish explained to Lulu that their family is just a mother and daughter, and that’s “how our family looks like.” She has also refrained from dating, thinking it will affect her daughter.

But it hasn’t stopped Lulu from asking questions about her dad. “I knew this would come up eventually,” Trish confessed.

“I think I want to try to reach out and serve him to get a DNA test (I just want him to not be able to deny it),” she explained.

She began “sleuthing” online and discovered her ex was currently in a relationship. “And I know he sucks, but I also feel bad sort of blowing up his life if I do this,” she added. “I’m not a confrontational person and don’t have much of a backbone, honestly.”

In her mind, if he meets Lulu, she knows “he’d fall in love with her too because she’s just so amazing.” But she also recognises that this is likely just a fantasy.

Dad “doesn’t want anything to do” with his daughter

Perspectives were split online, with some arguing the ex should be responsible for child support.

“Your daughter has a right to that money, and it could easily be her college fund,” someone recommended. “He’s also likely to unblock and reach out to you quickly when he gets served.”

“You may think that you don’t need the money, but I firmly believe that is your child’s money that you are denying her by not pursuing child support,” another agreed.

However, this was refuted by others who suggested it may lead to unwanted consequences. “What if you request the DNA test, and he decides he does want to be a dad and fights for joint custody?” someone asked.

“I think it's important to consider the possibility that he would be granted some partial custody if he wanted,” another commented.

Others told her to leave him alone.

“He doesn't want anything to do with her,” someone wrote. “Including him in her life would probably do more harm than good. I wouldn't bother,” said another.

“I would let him out of this. Why? Because he can turn your lives upside down and not for the better,” read a comment.

*Names have been changed