'My kids aren't the problem': Mum and sex worker Kayla Jade hits back

EXCLUSIVE: “For those who care so much about whether my kid will be bullied for it, how about other parents teach their kids to not be so judgmental?" 

When you’re a woman, your choices are never just your own.

Especially when motherhood enters the chat.

Last week, Aussie sex worker Kayla Jade made headlines for confirming a long-held secret: she’s a mum of two.

But speaking exclusively to Kidspot, she now says that wasn’t the real story.  

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“I live in a constant state of anxiety from it"

The influencer says the truth behind the headline involved receiving intense backlash, judgment, online gossip, and even doxing from other women. All of which forced her hand to 'confess' she's a mum.

The 30-year-old Queenslander, a social media star with more than two million followers on TikTok, has now opened up about what it’s really like to parent under a microscope.

“As sex workers, we don't talk about our private lives to our clients or to anyone for that matter, because it risks people invading your privacy,” she told Kidspot. 

“Sex workers get stalkers. They get people showing up to their house all the time. I've always just been very protective of my children. 

“I live in a constant state of anxiety from it.”

The mum added, “I'm not gonna share details of my children. That's just something that's really important to me." 

Kayla Jade took control of the narrative after rumours spread about her private life. Image: Instagram/itsmekaylajade

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"I teach my kids love"

When it comes to how her children see her? She’s already laid the foundation for that conversation. 

“I teach them to not be judgmental. I teach them love. I teach them kindness, empathy. They are the kindest kids I've ever met," she revealed. 

Kayla Jade also shared her plan to deal with potential playground bullies; she's flipping the script. 

“For those who care so much about whether my kid will be bullied for [my work], how about other parents teach their kids to not be so judgmental. It's not my kids who are the problem."   

Storytime with Kayla Jade

In a new podcast series, Storytime with Kayla Jade, she explains why she chose to take back the narrative after online speculation began to spiral.

She says that people weren’t just 'gossiping'. They were actively trying to source photos of her children, digging into their appearances, asking for their ages.

And most disturbing of all? Much of the behaviour came from other women. Other mothers.

“I'm all about women supporting women and to see that women were putting their f***ing tea in front of children's safety. That just broke my heart,” she told her listeners.

“My children's lives aren't your tea.” 

She draws a firm line between two very different lives: the public-facing world of her sex work, and the deeply private, sacred space of motherhood. 

In one world, she shares unfiltered stories about wild clients and her cashed up earnings. In the other, she’s packing school lunches, folding laundry, and squeezing in every extracurricular she can.  

Kayla Jade also explains on her pod that she's living that relatable mum life just like the rest of us. Her job doesn’t make her any less of a parent. In fact, it’s given her something most working mums can only dream of: time. 

She co-parents with her children’s father, someone she credits as a key support. While the flexibility of her work means she is able to be present for the day-to-day family moments that matter. 

Being a mum is her true calling. 

"I just always felt such a connection as a mother," she says. 

“I think when my kids look back on their life, they're not going to look back thinking mum was a sex worker. They're going to look back and think of all the wonderful memories that we've had together."

You can now listen to the episode of Storytime with Kayla Jade wherever you get your podcasts. 

Originally published as 'My kids aren't the problem': Mum and sex worker Kayla Jade hits back