‘Recognised four times’: Abbie Chatfield opens up about first sex party experience

Abbie Chatfield has opened up about her first experience at a sex club, and the awkward thing that happened to her “four times” while there.

Abbie Chatfield has shared the moment a bartender “recognised” her while attending a sex party for the first time.

The Australian media personality opened up about the recent experience during an episode of her LISTNR podcast It’s A Lot with Abbie Chatfield, describing it as her “first effort at being more queer and breaking my seal”.

“I went to pre-drinks before [the party]. I was very nervous. What does one wear to a sex party? I don’t know,” Chatfield said. “Do I bring vibrators or toys, or do I not? I brought a vibrator.”

Abbie Chatfield has opened up about attending her first sex party. Picture: Instagram

‘I walked in, and a bartender recognised me.’ Picture: Instagram

“Then we go to the sex party, there were lockers. I walked in, and a bartender recognised me – which wasn’t very conducive to horniness,” she continued.

“It was fine – like, she didn’t mean to do it, but I was like [singing], ‘I’m not going to be f**king anyone tonight because my p*ssy is now dried.”

Chatfield didn’t let the awkward encounter deter her, however, and began exploring the three-level club with her friends.

“There were three levels: downstairs was like a dungeon, which was pants on – you can have t*tties out, but pants on,” she explained.

“[In the dungeon] people are getting smacked – in a consensual way. It was fun, but I turned into a virgin. I was so nervous. I didn’t think I’d be so frigid and prudish – like, not judging anyone, but [I was] just overwhelmed and overstimulated.”

Upstairs, she said, “it was a free-for-all … in a good way”.

“Everyone ran to the orgy room and they all started f**king. The orgies began with couples having sex – people who are already sleeping together, or dating each other, or came with their play partners,” Chatfield said.

She added that she felt weird joining in – which wasn’t helped by her continuing to be recognised by other attendees at the party.

“At this point, I had been recognised four times. They saw me, they had a shocked face and knew it was inappropriate to say anything, so they kept walking, but I still knew they knew who I was.”

If she were to try her luck again at a sex party in the future, Chatfield joked she’d do so while “maybe wearing a gimp mask, or with a wig on and sunglasses … in a hot way”.

“And I’d probably only go with someone I’ve had sex with,” she said.

‘I’d probably only go with someone I’ve had sex with,’ she said of future sex parties. Picture Instagram

Chatfield told Stellar in May she’ll 'never' again utter the name of someone she’s sleeping with in public. Picture: Instagram

Following a string of relationships with fellow high-profile personalities that have played out in the media – most notably her open relationship with The Bachelorette alum Konrad Bien-Stephens – Chatfield told Stellar in May she’ll “never” again utter the name of someone she’s sleeping with in public.

“I don’t think I would [date publicly again], unless I was with someone for a long time,” she admitted.

“I’m going top say unless I was engaged. I might change my mind but, right now, I don’t think I have the capacity to be with someone publicly.

“If they’re in this industry, it causes so much sh*t. If they’re not in this industry, they’re getting dragged into my life, which isn’t really fair.

“If I’m sleeping with someone, I will never share their name. I don’t care about rumours, I only care if rumours are true. And I don’t want people to have anything to go off.”