‘Never’: Sex rule Abbie Chatfield lives by
Abbie Chatfield has revealed in a new interview the one thing she’ll “never” do again when it comes to her sex life.
In the four years since her turn as the “villain” of The Bachelor’s seventh season, Abbie Chatfield has established herself as a radio and TV presenter, podcaster, brand ambassador, entrepreneur, and all-round champion for young women.
Unlike most reality TV contestants – who try, and ultimately fail, to prolong their 15 minutes of fame – the 27-year-old has become a bona fide star, and one of Australia’s most coveted media personalities.
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But appearing on the cover of this week’s Stellar to promote Binge*’s upcoming reality series FBOY Island – of which she’s the host – Chatfield revealed that status comes at a cost, especially to her love life.
Following a string of relationships with fellow high-profile personalities that have played out in the media – most notably her open relationship with The Bachelorette alum Konrad Bien-Stephens – she told the publication she’ll “never” again utter the name of someone she’s sleeping with.
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“I don’t think I would [date publicly again], unless I was with someone for a long time,” Chatfield admitted. “I’m going to say unless I was engaged, I might change my mind but, right now, I don’t think I have the capacity to be with someone publicly.
“If they’re in this industry, it causes so much sh*t. If they’re not in the industry, they’re getting dragged into my life, which isn’t really fair.
“If I’m sleeping with someone, I will never share their name. I don’t care about rumours, I only care if rumours are true. And I don’t want people to have anything to go off.”
Knowing that she’s likely being watched by the public and the paparazzi when she’s out – especially if it’s with a date – “can be sh*t because there are people I’d like to go on a walk with or have a coffee with”.
“I just don’t want to start rumours. If I have a first date with someone, and someone takes a photo of us, then we have to have the conversation of how we’re going to ‘address it’ in the media,” Chatfield added.
“We have to have the conversation, after a first date, of ‘What are we?’. And it kind of sucks the fun out of everything. If you go to the same event, you have to text: ‘Are we going to say hello [to each other in public]?’”
At the moment, she doesn’t think that she’s “in real working order to be in a relationship”.
“I’m turning 28 in June. I’m like, ‘Oh, everyone I date now, they want to settle down’ – or they’re like, ‘I want to kind of know if it’s going somewhere.’”
Of her new hosting gig, she said the show is “more ethical than shows like The Bachelor or MAFS or Love Island”, because female contestants aren’t blindsided in the same way.
“The women who go into this show, they know half the men are fboys, so they are on f**kboy patrol. They’re empowered by that,” she said.
“On The Bachelor, someone could get a great edit, and no one knows they’re actually a piece of sh*t. And that has happened before, with people [from the series] who I have met. Whereas the f**kboys on this show … eventually it is revealed [who they are], whether after the show or during the show. So they’re getting held accountable for their actions.”
While she admitted it’s “not going to change feminism as we know it, I also think there’s room to be silly and funny”.
“If you’re famous and a feminist, there’s a lot of room to point out ‘hypocrisy’,” she said.
“If you take one step wrong, if everything you do isn’t serious or [revolutionary] … I’m not going to sit here and pretend this show is going to f***ing change lives – I think it’s going to be funny.”
Read Abbie Chatfield’s full interview inside Stellar, out today in The Sunday Telegraph (NSW), Sunday Herald Sun (Victoria), The Sunday Mail (Queensland) and Sunday Mail (South Australia).
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