‘I used to be a raging feminist but now I am a stay-at-home wife’

A woman who admits she was once a “raging feminist” has revealed how she gave up her beliefs to become a stay-at-home wife.

A woman who admits she was once a “raging feminist” has revealed how she gave up her beliefs to become a stay-at-home wife.

As reported by The Sun, Rebecca Barrett once worked as a high-flying engineer in New York but now she loves nothing more than getting her husband’s dinner ready, she revealed in a recent YouTube video.

The mum-to-be said that while she grew up in a traditional household she quickly subscribed to feminist beliefs after being “exposed to infidelity”.

“I learned very young about infidelity and that’s what shaped me into becoming more of a feminist,” she explained in the video.

“When I went to high school and going to college I wanted to be an independent woman.

“I didn’t want to rely on a man’s income; I wanted to have my own income so I decided to go down an engineering route.”

Rebecca Barrett gave up her feminist beliefs when she married her husband.

She worked as an oil and gas engineer before moving to New York to set up her first company.

“New York was the place where feminism just took its grips into me and I adopted a lot of the ideology,” she said.

“But the more masculine I became the less happy I was, the more resentful I was and the more combative and competitive I was.

“It was very exhausting, I was constantly battling my feminine energy with my masculine energy. I was miserable. I was always questioning why I couldn’t be more aggressive or competitive – I was at my breaking point.

“I felt like I had accomplished so much and I had lived a very single life because I resented men and I didn’t like being around men.”

She is now a submissive stay-at-home wife to husband James. Picture: Instagram

But Ms Barrett began taking a new outlook when she met her husband – though it wasn’t always smooth sailing.

“The more I was working on myself the more I realised that I was creating a lot of the issues in our relationship,” she said.

“I would get upset with him about things he didn’t even know he was doing.”

The couple decided to attend premarital counselling, where Ms Barrett was reintroduced to a more traditional approach to marriage.

“This taught us the roles of a wife and a husband,” she explained.

“I realised I was still very much in my ‘feminist mindset’. I realised that if I wanted to be a wife then I needed to take on the role.

“A wife is submissive to her husband and my husband leads in our relationship.”

She was quick to dispel any misconceptions people may have about being “submissive”.

“Women think that being submissive means a man can just walk all over you, but being submissive means having trust in your husband’s decision making skills,” she said.

“Having that ability to lean on your husband and letting him take the lead in the household.

“I’m his co-pilot but at the end of the day he makes the final decision.”

As well as taking a submissive role in the relationship, Ms Barrett also dedicates time each day to look her best for her husband.

“I make sure that I look good for my husband because I want him to want me – I don’t want him to look outside of the house,” she added.

“It is so refreshing when you have a masculine man who can take on his masculine form and I can then move into my feminine form and we can complement each other rather than compete.”

This article originally appeared on The Sun and was reproduced with permission