Woman unimpressed over boyfriend’s milestone gift fail

A woman has asked what she should do after her boyfriend bought her a $20 necklace and split the dinner bill on her 30th birthday.

A disappointed woman has revealed she was left confused after her boyfriend gifted her a $20 necklace for her birthday.

The British woman took to Mumsnet to ask fellow forum users what she should do after he gave her the $20 gift and asked her to split the bill for her birthday dinner.

“I’ve been with my boyfriend for only 9 months, so not a long time I know. But I feel disappointed and sad by the lack of effort my boyfriend has shown for my birthday,” the woman stated in her post.

“He got me a random joke card that had no relevance to us, and seemed like something he already had lying around. He got me a necklace that literally broke after 10 minutes of wearing it, it looked really cheap, and he told me it was from Amazon … I found it and it was $20. Like what?

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Woman says she was given $20 necklace for 30th birthday by boyfriend. Picture: iStock

“I don’t understand why he has been so cheap?! He is very caring and affectionate, tells me everyday he loves me, but this has just felt so disappointing. We went out for a birthday meal and he suggested we pay half each.”

She explained he isn’t struggling financially, with thousands in his savings, and often treats himself to material goods.

“I don’t know what to say to him, I don’t want to upset him, but I don’t feel very special and I feel crappy about the lack of effort, romance, and just general desire to make a fuss of me on my 30th,” she finished the post.

Many were quick to offer their opinion on what the woman should do, with some saying the woman should dump her boyfriend but not everyone agreed.

One social media user said: “Massively got the ick reading your post – this guy obviously has the means, but did not make any real effort on your birthday.

“I would finish things – otherwise, you are showing him that you accept this minimal effort.”

Another added: “If this is how he is in the romantic phase, it doesn't bode well for the future. Cast your net further.”

A third said: “I would be rethinking my relationship tbh. If he is spending on himself and expecting you to have a cheap and nasty present and to go halves on your birthday then it doesn’t look good.”

“I would let him know and see what he says if he gives you crap about women being materialistic or any crap like that just dump.”

Despite many standing firm with the original poster, some saw it from the other side.

“Could he just be totally clueless? You’re still in the age group where some people might still be living at home or on their first girlfriend so genuinely not have twigged while still being a nice person.

“I can imagine my brother doing something like this but he can be really generous and caring, he just needs a bit of a prompt sometimes.”

Woman said she was left unsure about the day. Picture: iStock

Another called the woman “shallow” for her post.

“You’ve been dating for 9 months so maybe seen each other 9 times? What did you expect? A pearl necklace,” the comment read.

“He ordered you something. Yes maybe cheap but is that really all you care about? It makes you sound shallow af.”

Some said not everyone is a birthday person and while they would have been disappointed, they understand it’s not a thing everyone enjoys.

“I’m a birthday person, and I married a birthday person, and it worked out well. Some people don’t get excited by their own birthday, or anybody else’s,” the commenter said.

“I actually don’t see any problem with that but it’s not me. It sounds like you feel the relationship is good, I would personally accept his approach to birthdays, and reciprocate on an equal basis.

“ Over time you may be able to talk about it and say why you think birthdays are important, and tell him what you want (effort and to feel special). If he didn’t treat you well, was caring and affectionate every day, then my advice would be different.”