Pregnant woman's divisive ultimatum to family members who don't like her

Should friends and family have a say in seeing your kids? This pregnant TikToker says no.

Tayler Arrington sets boundaries for people who don't like her. Source: TikTok / @taylerarrington

Having a baby can bring happiness to a family. But it can also bring a sense of entitlement to friends and relatives, with many people thinking they have an all-access pass to your bundle of joy.

The fourth trimester can be challenging enough without having people disrespecting you and your wishes, and pregnant US Tiktoker @taylerarrington has made her view abundantly clear.

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In a bold move, Tayler has taken a decisive stance by warning any friends or family who don't like the mum-to-be that they will not be permitted to see her children, despite the relationship they may have with them.

“This goes for complete strangers walking down the street, this goes for co-workers, this goes for customers at my work, this goes for my mum, dad, sister, brother, auntie, uncle, in-laws, boyfriend, girlfriend – it could be anybody.

"I’m not talking about anybody specific," she adds. 

The declaration, shared with her two million followers, has ignited a passionate discussion about parental boundaries and a sense of entitlement some people may claim over a new family member.

"I'm sorry if that's how you old-school people grew up," she shared in the clip, which has been liked over one hundred thousand times. "You do not have any entitlement over my children."

Source: TikTok / @taylerarrington

Boundary setters unite

Her TikTok post has resonated with thousands of viewers, with one commenter expressing, "I follow a rule in my life… if you aren't kind to me… you don't get to have a relationship with my kids!" Others echoed this sentiment, vowing never to allow their children around those who openly criticise or speak poorly about them or their partners.

"Preach! No one is entitled to my child," another comment read. "Disrespect me or his dad, and you won't be around. Point blank, period."

One mum even went as far as sharing her experience with being a problematic family member: "As a mother-in-law who had a rough relationship with my DIL I had to learn this," she wrote. "Now we are closer and have a good relationship, and I get it :)"

Source: TikTok

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Kids come first

This passionate and thought-provoking discussion highlights the complex dynamics of family relationships, boundaries, and the significance of mutual respect. Tayler's decision to prioritise her children's well-being and protect them from negative influences has sparked a broader conversation about the rights and responsibilities of parents when it comes to choosing who has access to their children.

Navigating the delicate terrain of setting boundaries with relatives concerning your children can be daunting for parents. While protecting a child's well-being and autonomy is crucial, it also carries the risk of upsetting well-meaning but possibly unaware family members.

No one wants to be the bad guy when it comes to family decisions. Still, ultimately, a parent's priority is the safety and happiness of their child.

Time for the tough conversation

Ultimately, Tayler's story serves as a reminder that, as parents, we have the right and responsibility to create a safe and loving environment for our children, which may sometimes mean setting firm boundaries with those who do not contribute positively to their lives.

While many of us may deliver this message a little more delicately, the meaning is still important and deserves a conversation with any friends or family who are already staking a claim on their relationship with the new child.

Originally published as Pregnant woman's divisive ultimatum to family members who don't like her