‘I wore white to my cousin’s wedding, this is the only exception to the rule’

“The way my wedding planner would have you go change before you even entered the building…”

Cark's dress choice has raised a few eyebrows, and gave others misty eyes. Source: purple_paraho/TikTok

There are a few famous faux pas that every guest should take into consideration when attending another person’s wedding. 

From proposing during the wedding, forgoing a gift and rocking up late, there’s a long list of etiquette rules that people should be mindful of before attending the nuptials. 

Another huge mistake some people can make is wearing white.

It is widely considered such an offensive move that you run the risk of getting kicked out completely or the very least, shamed online. 

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“There is one exception to the ‘no white dress to a wedding’ rule”

So when American woman, Cark, showed her TikTok audience the dress she was planning to wear to her cousin’s wedding, she had to quickly defend her choice. 

“There is, in fact, one exception to the ‘no white dress to a wedding’ rule,” she said. “And that is this dress.” 

She stepped before the camera, donning a white, grey and red floral dress featuring a large rose on the front and a fabric bow at the waist, a thigh slit and a matching scarf that rested along her collarbones. 

You may think she had permission to wear the dress because of its floral pattern or red colourway, but you’d be wrong. 

In fact, there was a very touching reason for her outfit choice. 

“It’s because it was my grandmother’s, and she wore it to all six of her kids’ weddings,” she said.

“So now I have to carry on the tradition and wear it to my cousin’s wedding,” she said, adjusting the fabric on the scarf as she showed off the pretty design. 

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The dress garnered mixed results online. Source: purple_paraho/TikTok

Woman recreated grandmother’s photo in heirloom dress

It’s unsurprising that many brides would have considered this as entering unsafe territory, but its sentimental value made it the perfect choice for Cark. 

On the wedding day, she decided to abandon the accompanying scarf, instead choosing a simple string of pearls and black pumps. 

A photo at the end of the clip showed the girl wearing the dress and dancing with a family member at the wedding, just as her grandmother did so many years ago.

She even recreated the photo, snapping a shot of her dancing in the same dress and striking the exact pose as her beloved relative. 

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Cark recreated her grandmother's photo. Source: purple_paraho/TikTok

“That is 100 times cooler than any other tribute I've seen at a wedding”

Most of the viewers had no problem with Cark wearing the heirloom to her relative’s wedding due to its sentimental value.

“OK, a family tradition is an exception,” someone conceded. “I love that you are carrying on the dress tradition!” said another. 

“You look gorgeous, just like your grandma!” a person gushed. “I love this so much! What a thrill it must be to carry on in her good taste,” added another. 

The colour combination wasn’t a big deal to many others, who argued that white was just the base, therefore making it a safer choice. 

“I mean, even if it was my wedding, I would think ... wearing that dress is fine because it’s not only white,” read a comment. 

“I feel like this is actually a great example of what I wouldn’t even [be] mad at someone wearing,” another agreed. “Not even the tradition, just the fact that it was colourful.”

While most loved the touching tribute to her grandmother, it didn’t go well with others. “The way my wedding planner would have you go change before you even entered the building,” someone contested. 

Traditionally red and white have a deep-rooted history with wedding customs, and in many cultures, the bride and groom wear red throughout ceremonies and rituals. 

Therefore the bold shade can be considered just as off-limits for guests as wearing white.

“At my wedding, I would have sent you home because no red or white was allowed,” warned a commenter. 

Jumping to her defence, many argued the tradition was too important to pass up. “It's a tradition, and I bet the cousin would feel left out if you didn't wear it,” someone reasoned. 

“I love that you are carrying on the dress tradition!” said another. “That is 100 times cooler than any other tribute I've seen at a wedding.”

Originally published as ‘I wore white to my cousin’s wedding, this is the only exception to the rule’