Ask Val: ‘my friend won’t admit to her cosmetic surgery’
WHEN a Mosman woman disappeared for a mystery overseas holiday, her friends were curious. But they had no idea of the shock awaiting them when she returned.
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Dear Val,
I need your advice. A few weeks ago, one of my best friends went on holidays and we didn’t see or hear from her for a month. She didn’t update any of her social media accounts, and didn’t return calls or texts. Last week, she suddenly turned up on my front doorstep and I hardly recognised her. She’s clearly had some pretty extensive cosmetic surgery done but she made absolutely no mention of it, saying she had been away to a deserted island and never felt so young and alive. How do I broach the topic of her new face?
Botox Baby, Mosman
Dear BB,
Good plastic Surgery is rarely noticed; bad plastic surgery ‘screams’ at you. A quote from Stephen Prendiville MD.
What a terrible shock for you to have one of your best friends land on your doorstep, after a month on holidays, looking unrecognisable.
She clearly had some pretty extensive cosmetic surgery, but why and where? She said she had been to a deserted island. Deserted islands rarely have hospitals let alone facelift clinics. It also seems out of character not to update her social media accounts and not even a text.
She obviously didn’t want her friends to know. It is a delicate matter, you don’t want to hurt her feelings, so just mention that she looks very different. She said a very positive thing — ‘I never felt so young and alive’ — in which case simply say, ‘you may want to share with me a little about your holiday. Our mutual friends will notice you look different and perhaps even like a kewpie doll, and they could make pretty hurtful comments either directly or behind your back’.
Many celebrities go down this road and end up with botched plastic surgery, in the 1980s especially, it was common. Lips that resemble inflated tyres. The old saying is you ‘get what you pay for’.
If your friend chooses not to confide, it is fair to say she is not a close friend.
Val Edwards is the owner of the sydneymodelagency.com and sydneyetiquettecollege.com.au