Why Sydney men need to stop only chasing hot girls- just like that New York guy declared

THIS week Sarah weighs in on the viral article which saw New York bloke Dan Rochkind declare: “I won't date hot women anymore”. And she reckons Sydney men could learn a lesson from it.

The New York Post article which has made a lot of folk very, very mad.

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WE NEED to talk about Dan.

Dan Rochkind, in case you’ve not heard, is a New York “executive” with a “full head of hair” who rose to fame late last week when he declared he “won’t date hot girls anymore” in the New York Post.

He was among folk who confessed to the tabloid paper that they’ve stopped dating ‘hot’ people.

Yes.

This is my ‘Why I won’t date hot men anymore’ pose, at the Steyne in Manly

Rochkind said he could “have anyone I wanted,” who was always “the hottest girl you could find.”

However, he revealed he started “dreading” dinner with these chicks, because “they couldn’t carry a conversation.”

And he said enough was enough with these beautiful airheads, he was going to date somebody with, what he calls “a softer beauty.”

He’s now engaged.

And however much you hate Mr Rochkind after reading his story, I think he has a point.

Swap these beautiful Manhattan women for Bondi Beach babes and I reckon a similar light bulb moment needs to happen in the heads of many Sydney guys.

"Now I just cheat on my 'softer beauty' fiancée with them' #danrochkind https://t.co/FbhcvNVnPO

— Yasir Shah (@shahy1980) April 14, 2017

You see, I’m an attractive, cosmopolitan, educated professional with good conversation and a great sense of humour. (And I’m even tall enough to be a model though sadly a few Oreos heavier.)

Yes, I haven’t had a date in weeks, I’m the dumped more often than the dumper, and most of the time, guys I message online don’t even reply (maybe because they ditched the app years ago).

Even when I meet blokes at events such as speed dating or Sydney Soiree, I usually never hear from them again.

ah yes every girl's fantasy, to grow up and be called 'merely beautiful' by her fiance in the new york post pic.twitter.com/gTLCNd8Q1Z

— Alanna Okun (@alanna) April 13, 2017

And I believe it could have something to do with the fact I don’t quite meet Mr Rochkind and many of the 3.5 billionish men in the world’s definition of ‘hot’.

In Sydney this seems to mean skinny chicks with Victoria’s Secret Angel hair who post bikini pics on Instagram, go to F45 and drink protein shakes.

My belief is backed up by some of my male pals who show me the girls they’ve messaged online (but usually never heard from.)

Yes, it’s always the ones who probably do a bit of swimsuit modelling on the side.

Then there are the anecdotes like the one from a friend who was chatted up by a guy who then audibly declared to his pal ‘lets go look for some younger girls at The Steyne.’

And you might think that I’m holding out for the tall, dark and handsome type too.

Maybe a few years ago.

But I’d rather find somebody who can make me laugh- and recently I’ve dated bald men, short blokes, guys with kids ...

I’m not saying you have to marry somebody you don’t find attractive.

But beauty is only skin deep and attraction can grow.

No Victoria’s Secret hair to see here.

A lot of us ‘non model’ types have plenty to offer too, if you’d only give us a chance. Just like Dan Rochkind did.

Except, just to confuse us all, he didn’t.

Yes actions speak louder than words and he actually deigned to get engaged to a women he describes as TOO SHORT TO BE A MODEL.

Yes.

And I scrolled down, expecting to see a photo of him next to a girl-next-door-type with specs and a university hoodie.

And saw a picture like this:

Dan Rochkind with his non-hot, too-short, cuddly woman, Carly Spindel. Picture: Instagram

And I’m sorry, but what’s ‘not hot’ about this woman, Carly Spindel — who is also nearly a DECADE YOUNGER than him?

(She also runs a matchmaking firm with her mum who charges $1000 for an appointment and set her daughter up with Mr Rochkind, but that’s a whole other column. As is one about why women can’t be hot AND intelligent, oh and another too about what ‘hot’ actually means AND one about whether or not she should dump him).

He also described this approximate Australian size 8 woman as ‘cuddly’ saying: “She’s a softer beauty, someone you can take home and cuddle with, and she’s very elegant”.

Carly Spindel and her mum Janis run Janis Spindel Serious Matchmaking, which is apparently the matchmaker to end all matchmakers and sounds very scary. Off with their heads. Picture: Facebook

He added: “And she’s 5-foot-2, so she can’t be a runway model, but I think she’s really beautiful and is prettier than anyone I’ve dated,”

Ms Spindel is standing by her man — and said his words about her were twisted.

While Mr Rochkind might not have done so bad after all, what he said is true.

Ditch pursuing the hotties men - and go for us “softer” beauties.

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