Revealed: ‘Sugar babies’ make thousands a week from lonely ‘daddies’

A Brisbane “sugar baby” says she is “empowered” as some of her “daddies” pay her a weekly $500 allowance even when they don’t see each other.

A Brisbane woman has lifted the sheets on the secret underground world of being a “sugar baby” and her relationship with three older “daddies” who pay her thousands for innocent dates through to satisfying bizarre fetishes.

Monique, not her real name, said becoming a sugar baby in March had been an “empowering” experience that has made her a “sh-- tonne of money”.

She has established arrangements with three men aged in their 50s and is making thousands of dollars each week on top of her regular day job – sometimes just by sitting on the couch and texting.

Each daddy comes with a specific set of rules and instructions, with one happy to just sit and talk, one desperate to pamper her with gifts and pleasures and another who is very much into BDSM.

Sugar baby “Monique” said the experience had been “empowering”. Picture: Mark Cranitch

“Usually he’ll tell me what to wear, how to wait for him, the temperature he wants the room set to very specific details,” Monique said.

“I was quite nervous leading up to our first meeting because I've never done anything like that before, so I really had to trust him but when it actually happened, I had the best time.

“He blindfolded me and as much as it was that kind of dominant treatment, it wasn’t demeaning or weird, and there were safe words involved.”

Monique has known about sugar-daddy dating for more than a decade, but after facing financial difficulty, finally decided to test the waters herself.

“When I was much younger, my friend living in Sydney told me she was seeing a guy who was paying for her entire life, her apartment, car, everything, and so when I had these major changes going on in my life, I thought why not give it a crack,” she said.

“You do have to have a vetting process, there’s a lot of freaks and weirdos on the site that are very specific about what they want, like red or pink nails, photos of your feet.

“Surprisingly there's also lot of guys on there who want the whole girlfriend experience, they want to spend the night with you, go on dates, go to bars, go jet skiing but that’s not what I was looking for.

“I wanted something where I genuinely got on with the person because the sexual side of it grows old really quickly.”

There is a vast array of sugar daddy sites available in Australia, each famously known for their discretion and ability to attract users in all kinds of real-life relationships.

Monique, who is listed on Seeking Arrangements, said for females it was a financial life hack that could also be used for sexual empowerment.

“It's one of those things that there’s a lot of people who do it who would never really disclose it … but really it’s just something for people out there who are looking for something that they don’t currently have or someone who can afford to look after someone else,” she said.

A flogger used by “Monique”. Picture: Mark Cranitch

“For me, it’s been a genuine life hack. Some of my suitors pays me an allowance of at least $500 a week even when we don’t see each other.

“Plus when you have an arrangement, all your cards are on the table.

“You know what that person wants, they know what you want and you both know why, so I've had this awesome opportunity to try different things in the bedroom that I wouldn’t have done with somebody else and just enjoy myself without worry.

“It’s been quite an empowering experience.”

Monique’s hot tips for first-time sugar babies:

• Be wary which profile photos are accessible by the public
• Always talk to a potential sugar daddy before committing to a date/arrangement
• Make all first meet-ups in a public place
• Tell a trusted friend where your date will be and how long you expect it to take
• Be wary of your surroundings when meeting daddies for the first time
• Never do anything you’re not comfortable with
• Set your own boundaries

Australia’s top sugar daddy sites:

Secret Benefits – 17-24 million visits a month

Ashley Maddison – 10-11 million visits a month

Sugar Daddy.com.au – 40-50,000 visits a month

Sugar Daddy Meet – up to 1 million visits a month

Seeking (arrangements) – 10.5 million visits a month

Victoria Milan – 900,000 visits a month

Emily Dates – 1.4-1.8 million visits a month

Rich Meet Beautiful – 1.7-1.9 million visits a month

Sugar Daddie.com – 145-230,000 visits a month

Australian Sugar Daddy – 600,000 visits a month

Cougar Life – 120-160,000 visits a month

Sugar Daddy For Me – 52-92,000 visits a month

Established Men – 93-103,000 visits a month

Sugar Book – 205-350,000 visits a month