Women online are sharing intimate details of their break-up journeys

Young women have never been more online, with a new viral trend emerging that sees them share their most intimate moments.

Break-up Vlogs are going viral. Picture: TikTok

Young women are sharing their break-up journeys online with such searing candour that it feels like heartache voyeurism.

TikTok users — from influencers to just regular women — now share break-up vlogs capturing their days after a huge relationship ending.

If you’re imagining typical aspirational girl boss content featuring women living their best lives post-break-up and dancing to empowering songs by Lizzo, you’d be wrong.

The trend is women sharing their vulnerability after their relationships crumble. There’s crying, discussing how hard it is to get out of bed and a significant focus on admitting that a relationship ending is tough.

Influencer Shay Jarman documented the end of a four-year relationship by creating a TikTok that shared how she spent the first day by herself after her boyfriend had moved out of their shared home.

Shay has been honest about how hard it is to start again. Picture: TikTok/shayjarman

She’s shared her break-up journey with the masses. Picture: TikTok/shayjarman

In the footage, she gets ready for the day, applying her make-up while explaining how she now feels as though she has to start entirely from “scratch”.

Shay revealed she’d been with her ex through some pretty formative years, from nineteen to twenty-three, and fears she “doesn’t know herself anymore”.

The video follows Shay as she gets out of bed, does her make-up, searches for new furniture online and does her laundry.

She’s just putting one foot in front of the other as she tries to process the end of her relationship.

The candid TikTok amassed over 500,000 views, resonating with young women who were quick to weigh in.

“I feel this vibe 100 per cent,” someone commented.

“Going through the exact same thing right now, we can do it,” someone cheered.

“I feel you, I see you, and it will get better,” someone promised.

“Girl, same, but we are going through it together,” another wrote.

The young woman has shared the highs and lows of a break-up. Picture: TikTok/princesspellow

She's turned her break-up into a series for others going through it. Picture:Instagram/AbbyPellow

Aussie influencer Abigail Pellow also documented how she coped after her romantic relationship did not work out.

In her post break-up TikTok, she’s seen taking her dog for a walk and going to the gym.

A voice-over expresses that she’s looking for someone who doesn’t see a relationship as a “chore”.

She’s since turned her break-up into a series where she shows her new daily life as a single woman.

Often, the videos are as simple as her cleaning her bathroom sink or going to get frozen yoghurt.

“Life after a break-up: it’s hard when all you want to do is love but at the end of the day you have to love yourself more and put yourself first. Trust your gut and trust that time heals all,” she wrote.

The trend features women going about their daily lives. Picture:TikTok/concepthannah

Breakups are hard. Picture: Instagram/Hannah-Lane

Similarly, content creator Hannah Lane has documented her break-up online.

She’ll upload TikToks that follow a basic day in her life, including everything from brushing her teeth to playing on her laptop.

“Breakups suck so badly. I don’t feel like doing anything, but I promise these videos will get more entertaining,” she wrote.

Hannah has created a series around the break-up where she’s documented her days afterwards and they rack millions of views. Interestingly, her days often heavily feature her not doing much; perhaps that’s what makes it so relatable.

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Mental health expert Tracey Horton said this trend isn’t surprising because humans are “wired” to want to share when good or bad things happen.

“Emotions are always healthier for us when we can speak and share them and social platforms like TikTok have created a genuine outlet for us to see and be seen,” she told news.com.au.

It can feel jarring to see influencers pull back the curtain on their seemingly perfect lives, but Horton explains that it is simply a “natural progression”.

“We live in a society with a lot more social access, and it seems a lot less social etiquette than previous generations. I believe this isn’t necessarily wrong; in fact it is a natural progression that I see will only grow bigger and bigger.”

Originally published as Women online are sharing intimate details of their break-up journeys