Polyamorous lesbian tries to find the perfect hook-up in Sydney

A poly lesbian comes to the horrifying realisation that trying to find the perfect hook-up in Sydney is no easy feat.

Lana* is a polyamorous lesbian with a primary partner that is currently in Europe while she’s in Sydney.

Lana is looking for the perfect hook-up to get her through Autumn but it’s hard to find someone that she has a real and long-lasting connection with.

She recorded her escapades and has shared them with news.com.au as part of our weekly series Sex Diaries, documenting the sex lives of everyday Aussies.

Monday

I have a night in and check through the Tinder matches I’ve drunkenly acquired over the weekend.

I catch up with my primary partner on the phone in the morning as she lives long distance. I miss her so much.

I message a few of my matches, but no one is that interesting, so I text a few people I hook up with for their week plans, but everyone’s vague.

A sexless night for me.

Long distance relationships can be tough on the sex drive. Picture: iStock via filadendron

Tuesday

I go and see a partner I’ve been sleeping with regularly. Sometimes, I can’t fit in other people along with my primary partner and my university course load, but I’m keen, and she’s willing, and the whole experience is super easy and fun – I orgasm three times.

She’s very into my pleasure and I’m equally turned on by hers, so, it is a match made in heaven.

God, I love sleeping with women!

Wednesday

I return to Tinder and reach out to anyone who has taken my fancy. I’m cautious not to get lazy and just keep seeing the same people.

Another girl I’m in a situationship with comes over, and we cook dinner, drink and have sex.

I tend to end up in weird situations with people because I like to get to know people so the sex can be better because we will both feel more comfortable, but sometimes I get the ick and have to bail on it.

Tonight was nice, though and there’s nothing better than sex when you feel confident to reveal what you want.

Thursday

I’m in my sexting era – I’m sexting multiple people, but I need to start being more careful - Sydney is so small! All the lesbians know each other, and it is always horrifying when you go on Instagram and realise how many mutual followers you have.

I enjoy sexting so much I see it as an individual activity. When I get home, I pour myself a glass of wine and engage in multiple fantasies with multiple women – fingers crossed they don’t know each other.

I make myself orgasm tonight and it feels like an act of self-care.

Finding the perfect partner isn’t easy. Picture: iStock via filadendron

Friday

I’m heading out for a Tinder date, I wish I could meet people in real life, but I don’t want to waste my time hitting on straight girls.

We opt for pizza on the beach, which is super cute and a little romantic. There aren’t huge sparks, but I’m grateful the night doesn’t turn weird. Not like last week when a girl invited her ex to a date we’d planned and didn’t tell either of us the other was coming!

Saturday

I go out dancing and end up at an old hook-up house – the sex is average, and my hangover is brutal in the morning.

Sunday

I catch up with my primary partner and debrief on my week. I also go through who I have slept with in the last week and decide who I’ll continue seeing into next week.

Originally published as Polyamorous lesbian tries to find the perfect hook-up in Sydney