'It's decaf, right?' Aussie mum shamed in mums' group for ordering a coffee

"I said I really wanted a coffee and one woman in particular was like 'ah, so you’re not breastfeeding?'"  

An Aussie woman has opened up about being shamed for drinking coffee as a breastfeeding mum.

But not by a barista - but from within her mothers' group; a space meant for support and no judgement.

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"I was really shocked by it"

Mum Yvette shared a TikTok, explaining what happened.

Talking to the camera, she says, "I got mum-shamed today. I went to a playgroup today, which I haven’t been to since I had my son.

"I just took my daughter today and people were asking ‘how did it go’ and everyone was super lovely and welcoming, you know, very kind.

"I mentioned I really wanted a coffee and one woman there in particular was like ‘ah, so you’re not breastfeeding?’ I was like ‘I am breastfeeding’.

"She was like, ‘you’re having decaf right?’ and I’m like, ‘I’m not having decaf, I’m having proper coffee’."

The woman continued to interrogate Yvette: "She was so concerned by me having a coffee and was like, ‘doesn’t that affect your babies’ sleep and stuff like that?’ [I said] I haven’t noticed.

"She was like, 'you’re having a really weak one, right?' She was really concerned about me having a coffee.

"I think if I had realised to start off with, I would’ve been like, ‘p**s off’, but I was really shocked by it."

"Anyway, I had my coffee and she’s an absolute k**b."

Yvette later wrote: "I think pushing it with multiple questions and suggestions was the issue."

Source: tiktok@le_yvette

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"Coffee comments annoy me"

Many viewers related to Yvette's experience.

"This is why I don’t do mum groups," one said.

Another added, "Someone at a mothers' group asked me if I was worried I was going to give my baby diabetes because I was demand feeding him."

Others also addressed the validity of the coffee concerns, with this mum saying, "The coffee comments annoyed me so much. I’m still breastfeeding my 20-month-old and I have 1-2 cafe coffees a day and never cared!"

Finally, this mum gave her opinion that, "Two-three cups of coffee is considered safe to consume while breastfeeding!"

For information on breastfeeding, speak to your GP or visit The Raising Children Network.

Originally published as 'It's decaf, right?' Aussie mum shamed in mums' group for ordering a coffee