'His comment during my appointment left me feeling violated'

"He said it with a shrug and smiled," a woman has shared about her traumatic doctor's visit. 

A mum has sparked widespread concern after sharing a worrying experience with her male doctor. 

The anonymous woman took to Mumsnet to detail her first appointment, during which she discussed the possibility of getting a prolapse procedure. 

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"I felt violated"

According to the poster, the consultation took a disturbing turn towards the end when the doctor made a comment that left her deeply unsettled.

"I asked him if an operation would help," she explained.

"He tried to put me off and refer me to physio, but then at the end of this, he then said, 'although it does make your vagina tighter', and kind of gave a little shrug and smiled.

"Am I unreasonable to have felt really embarrassed and uncomfortable with this comment?"

The mum added: "This came after an examination as well, so I felt a bit violated, to be honest. Just want to get opinions before I decide whether to make a complaint or not."

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"Disgusting f**king creep"

The post gained significant attention in the comments, with many users expressing disgust at the doctor and support for the mum.

"That would have really upset me. I would make a formal complaint," one person wrote.

"I'd complain immediately. What a disgusting f**king creep," said a second.

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However, others thought it was a harmless comment, well within the bounds of what they'd expect a gynecologist to discuss.

"That wouldn't bother me in the slightest. Some people would be pleased to have that as a side effect given they've got a prolapse and I presume have had kids. Each to their own," one user replied.

Someone else shared, "I would laugh and tell him that it's a pointless benefit for me then!"

"He's told you what to expect besides fixing the original problem. I don't know how else he could have phrased it? Just because he's talking about sexual organs doesn't make the conversation sexual," claimed a third.

"I think you are sexualising a comment he made about a part of treatment," someone echoed.

But people on the other side of the debate came back with thoughts...

"I’m sorry. I disagree. I was married to a GP. I was a medical secretary and the complaints officer in a practice for many years. I lived and breathed clinical conversations. This isn’t f**king clinical talk about ‘bits’. It’s disrespectful, is what it is," said one woman.

And a final person concluded: "No, you didn't take it the wrong way. I've worked in gynaecology, and there was no reason for him to say this in relation to your consultation today, and this doctor took the risk of telling an offensive shit 'joke' that made you feel violated. That's not right."

Originally published as 'His comment during my appointment left me feeling violated'