‘Men ghost me when they find out I’m a 36-year-old virgin’

A 36-year-old who believes sex is “sacred and special” has revealed men commit the same cruel act when they discover she’s a virgin.

A 36-year-old virgin who is waiting until she gets married before having sex has revealed men commonly commit the same cruel act when they discover her bedroom goals.

Sonali Chandra, a dancer and comedian from New York, said dating was difficult because of her strict views about intimacy and her lack of experience in the bedroom.

The Indian-American explained she was raised in a “very conservative way” and as a direct result, she viewed sexual intimacy as “sacred and special”.

But her traditional values have caused issues in today’s modern society, with Sonali revealing men often ghost her when they discover she won’t jump into bed.

Sonali Chandra is a 36-year-old virgin. Picture: Supplied

“The first time I ever told a guy that I’m still a virgin was when I was 26,” she told SEEN TV. “The guy who was my first kiss, my first actual relationship, he was shocked. His jaw dropped and he asked if I was gonna be a virgin for eternity.

“I’m like, ‘listen dude, I need a ring, you know?’ He ghosted me after six months on my birthday.”

He wasn’t the only guy to savagely abandon Sonali after discovering she wouldn’t have sex before tying the knot, with two other guys the young woman was “serious” about also turning their back on her.

“Even with those two other relationships, they ghosted me when they found out that they couldn’t have premarital sex with me,” she said.

“It’s heart-wrenching and makes me think that guys only think I’m good for sex.”

The comedian and dancer believes sex is ‘sacred and special’. Picture: Facebook/SonaliChandra

She explained men often ghost her when they discover she’s waiting for marriage. Picture: Facebook/SonaliChandra

She also said many guys make wild assumptions about her sexuality when she states her believes, with some even suggesting she’s not really into men if she won’t sleep with them.

“Men have questioned if I am straight, they say that I’m asexual or think I’m lesbian,” Sonali said.

“The truth is, I am a heterosexual female. I have strong values and high morals and I consider sex sacred and special.”

As well as her strict upbringing, which Sonali said had a “profound impact” on her dating life,” she also said sexual intercourse outside of marriage left her with several fears.

“The biggest concern for me was getting accidentally pregnant,” she argued. “It’s so easy for men. It’s an easy in and out, right?

“For us women, it’s, it’s a long process. There’s so many health issues, STDs, UTI, getting accidentally pregnant, even if they’re on the pill.

“Celibacy means I don’t have to deal with all that stuff.”

Men will try to sleep with Sonali when they discover her virginal status. Picture: Supplied

Despite her plans to save herself for the right man, Sonali said she’s not had much luck meeting someone.

After going public with her virginal status at the age of 33, she said men regularly slide into her DMs in a bid to sway her.

“They know that I’m a virgin, it’s something that they want to conquer,” she said.

“I have a personality and emotions, and I want a man to want me for all that too. Not just because I’m a virgin.”

Sonali has no regrets about her chastity pledge, but wishes others would stop pressuring her to “just do it” – including her family.

“Society should respect people for their own choices. We need to normalise not having sex and still going on dates. There’s nothing wrong with prioritising emotional connection over physical desires when it comes to dating.”

Originally published as ‘Men ghost me when they find out I’m a 36-year-old virgin’