Birthmark on best friend’s baby helps woman learn of affair
Hailey Custer placed her best friend’s baby on the changing table when she noticed something on the child’s neck that left her in absolute shock.
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A scorned woman claims she had no idea she was helping to deliver her husband’s baby after he allegedly cheated on her with her best friend.
Hailey Custer was left heartbroken after finding out her husband of six years, Travis Bowling, 36, allegedly cheated on her with her best friend – after the mum welcomed her best friend into her home to help her out.
The 28-year-old from Arizona, USA, was excited to help deliver her bestie’s baby – but had no idea that it was actually her husband’s child after the alleged cheating scandal.
Hailey explained that the baby had a rare heredity birth defect on their neck that was identical to her husbands — and after confronting the pair about her suspicions, her worst fears were confirmed.
The mum-of-four also claims her now ex-husband cheated on her with at least 30 different woman throughout the duration of their marriage — and even had two children with two different women while married to Hailey.
Hailey, who works in administration said: “I heard rumours that my friend was pregnant and homeless, so I reached out to her. I felt the need to help her.
“We are all charismatic people, so we all had that nature to be charismatic around each other and make jokes.
“I didn’t see anything there. I was very naive so I just didn’t think it would be possible for someone to do that
“We had just got home from the hospital and I was changing the baby when she turned her neck the birth defect popped out. When they’re babies it is really hard to see, and I wasn’t looking for it.
“I felt it and was like ‘OK’, this shock came over me.
“When I found out my friend was standing next to me, I looked at her and you could just tell. She couldn’t say anything, she just dropped her head and looked to the floor, and I just knew.
“There were no words that were said, I just knew.
“I was in a lot of shock in the beginning I couldn’t even process what had happened, it was almost like a stage of grief.
“Like you have your shock, your anger and you come to the conclusion that this is actually real life, this is actually happening.”
Hailey said she was excited to help her best friend — who she does not wish to name — give birth and even helped deliver the baby and give them their first bath.
She said: “In the hospital before I found out, I stepped into that father figure role.
“I was there for her every step of the way. Even in the hospital I wore the daddy wrist band, when she got her epidural, she laid on me.
“I actually gave the baby her first bath.”
After the heartbreaking ordeal, Hailey has found forgiveness within herself and plans on continuing her friendship with the friend and having a cordial relationship with her ex-husband for the sake of her children.
She explained: “For me, I was in a state of shock for a little bit. I walked outside when I first found out and just prayed.
“I kept hearing the words over and over in my head, ‘bigger picture’. For me that meant, stop with your tunnel vision.
“Now we have this innocent child who had no say in this whole situation, you have someone who doesn’t have anywhere to go, who has no family, we’re not going to kick them to the streets.
“I kept thinking of my kids, at the end of the day that is their blood sibling and I’m not going to be the one who causes harm to that child.
“So, she ended up staying with us.”
Hailey, who shared her story on TikTok with her original video gaining over 3.4 million views, opened up about some of the comments she’s been receiving
She said: “I’ve had one or two comments who are obviously men and narcissistic who said ‘well if you took care of your man, he wouldn’t have cheated.
“A lot of the comments though have been in support of me but there’s been some heat towards my friend which I try to shut down as soon as possible because that was not my goal.
“It’s got 3.4 million views now and has just blown up.
“It’s huge for everyone to know that I found forgiveness for myself. I’ve had to find forgiveness for myself and for the children.
“That’s the main point, you can walk through anything in life, and you can find forgiveness it just heals you from the inside out.
“When you don’t forgive yourself it’s like you drinking poison and wanting them to die.
“When I forgive for myself, it means I’m forgiving because I can’t stay sick anymore.”
Travis Bowling and Hailey’s friend have declined to comment.
Originally published as Birthmark on best friend’s baby helps woman learn of affair