I'm planning to withdraw my daughter from gymnastics against my wife's wishes

"My gut is to protect my daughter and withdraw her but I know it will put me in the dog house big time."

A dad on Reddit has been caught between wanting to help his daughter quit gymnastics and obeying his wife's desire to keep her enrolled.

"WIBTA if I withdrew my daughter from sports against my wife’s wishes?" he began his post on the AITA forum.

"My daughter (15f) is a competitive gymnast. Her team travels all over the country to compete. She is in high school and wants to stop competing because her body hurts, she is at the gym 14 hours a week, she lacks the drive and passion for the sport and she wants to do more high school things and concentrate on her studies."

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"I will be in the dog house big time"

"My wife (43f) is against it because my daughter’s season just started and she made a commitment to the team and she should see it through. We also spent $1,800 this summer on camps and sessions to help her get better . She thinks my daughter will be become lazy and want to hang out with friends and her chores and school work will suffer," he continued.

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"I (43m)understand my wife’s point about the commitment to the team and the money," he said.

"I also understand my daughter's point about being sore as I used to be weightlifter and wanting to be more active in high school. I am trying to find middle ground but I don’t think it exists. My gut is to protect my daughter and withdraw her but I know it will put me in the dog house big time. I feel stuck between a rock and hard place."

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"Listen to your daughter"

In the comments, most people told the dad to support his daughter with this one.

"Listen to your daughter," one user began. "Her reasons for wanting to stop the sport are valid. Forget about the money, that’s gone. It sounds like your wife is one of those dance mums, only for gymnastics."

"The $1800 is gone, no matter what," another agreed.

"It’s not coming back. So you can be out $1800 and have a miserable, resentful child or you can be out $1800 and have a happy, balanced child. As for the commitment to the team, it happens. Yes, it’s important to honor your obligations but it’s also important to learn that you don’t have to sacrifice yourself for others. If your daughter is no longer on this team, are we talking about girls that won’t be able to make it to the Olympics because of it? Most likely not. No one is irreplaceable, and someone will take her place."

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