I told my husband to pay me an hourly rate if he wants me to do more housework

"He wants to save money while sitting on his ass," a comment read. 

A mum has taken to an internet forum to ask for advice about, you guessed it, household chores and finances. 

The OP kicked off the post by explaining that she's a FIFO worker, sometimes working two-week stints away from her family. 

It's worthwhile, she says, as she is the breadwinner, earning around $200,000 a year.

"It is great. Our retirement savings are piling up and we have been able to splurge on the kids and ourselves," she said. 

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Fair or financially manipulative?

"My husband is upset, however, because I decided to pay for a cleaning lady. He and I discussed it, and we agreed that he and the kids didn't do a great job keeping the house clean and tidy while I was away. I hated coming home to a mess. It caused a few fights because it was like they expected me to come home and clean up after them," she continued. 

But she backs her decision to get a cleaner, saying it's "fantastic" to come home to a clean house. 

"I am happier, and my kids have more time to study and do extracurriculars. They still have chores and they are expected to clean up after themselves," she notes. 

"My husband came to me the last time I was home and said we should cut back on the service when I'm home and that I should do more housework. He thinks we are wasting money. I said that I work 14 days in a row and that those are 13-hour days.

"Yes, it is mostly paperwork, but his job as a teacher isn't much more physically challenging. I said that I could offer him two options. If he wanted, we could completely get rid of the service, and he and the kids could make sure the house was in good shape when I got home. Or he could pay me my hourly rate to do extra housework when I am on my days off."

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Seems fair, right?

Well, now her husband is upset with her and even called her "financially manipulative."

"I think if he and the kids actually did what they are supposed to do when I'm away, this wouldn't be an issue," she concluded. 

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"He wants to save money while sitting on his ass"

"So, you can afford it; everything gets done, everybody has free time, nobody has to do stuff they don't want to do, there aren't any fights over it - I mean, there's really no downside, and everybody wins," the top comment read. 

It continued, "Him getting upset because you said if the maid goes, he'll have to do his fair share is very telling. You're not home to make the messes, but you're supposed to work THAT much and come clean up after him just because he wants to 'save money' while getting to sit on HIS ass? People like your husband always reinforce my decision to stay single."

And a second wrote: "His pride is hurt that she makes more than him, and so he isn't the provider. Sh*t if my partner working means we can swing having a cleaner and more us time, let's go!"

And a third wrote, "NTA, he's free to clean the house he lives in. He's a misogynist." 

Originally published as I told my husband to pay me an hourly rate if he wants me to do more housework