I don't want my husband at my second birth - I don't need two babies

"What he said last time was so immature - and I know he'll say it again."

A pregnant woman has ignited debate after sharing that she wants to give birth to her second child without her husband there. 

In a post on Mumsnet, Jen* shared her anxieties and embarrassment over giving birth in front of him again, given his previous comments about her first labour.

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The hurtful comments

The mum-of-one is due to give birth in a couple of weeks but said she can't get over the fact that her husband has repeatedly reminded her that "some poo came out" during her last birth.

"He constantly reminds me about how it was really gross," she says.

"He's made references to it a few times and I don't know if I feel comfortable knowing it might happen again and he won't let it go."

Despite her subtly hinting that she might not want him in the room this time around, he was insistent on being there as he was during the last birth. 

The mum is nervous about her husband at the birth. Image: iStock

"If I told him the truth that it was embarrassing that he commented, then he probably wouldn't mention it, but I'd know he was thinking it," she explained.

"I don't know if it's just hormones because he's a very supportive husband, but I don't think I feel comfortable with him seeing me in that situation again, or am I just being anxious?"

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"Why does he remind you of that?"

The post quickly received over 200 replies, with many users expressing outrage at her husband's insensitivity.

"Why does he constantly remind you about that? So mean," one user asked.

Another commenter encouraged her to stand her ground, stating, "Tell him you don't want him there, and tell him why. I'd like to see him push something the size of a grapefruit out of himself while somehow managing to keep perfect control of his bowels."

Many echoed this sentiment, with one saying, "What an absolute pr*ck of a man he is. Have you not told him how upsetting his comments are?"

And more support flowed in for Jen, with another user writing: "It's your body and your choice. Of course, you will feel more comfortable and empowered if you aren't worried about someone judging you all the time."

And someone else concluded with this advice: "Do what makes you comfortable, not what society says you should. Birth shouldn't be a spectator sport."

Originally published as I don't want my husband at my second birth - I don't need two babies