This is why your childcare educators might not like you

A former childcare educator has unapologetically lifted the lid on some of the downsides of the job in an eye-opening reality check, labelling some parents as “giant pains in the a**”.

What childcare educators really think of you

A former childcare educator has described some parents as “giant pains in the a**” and reveals the reasons why childcare educators often dread phone calls from certain clients.

Kobe, the self-described “controversial” educator, regularly uploads videos sharing her opinions about some of the downfalls of working in the childcare industry.

In a video uploaded last week on TikTok, she targeted certain parents who tend to push the wrong buttons with educators, saying they are “tired of your s**t”.

“Of course your educators aren’t gonna f**king tell you that you’re a giant pain in the a** but I’m here to do just that because I have no allegiance to anybody and I don’t work for anybody,” she said.

Kobe the Controversial. Picture: TikTok

The former educator explained that parents who raise concerns over insignificant issues can easily avoid them by hiring a nanny.

“Parents that complain about every little thing missing socks, losing stuff that’s not labelled, how much they ate, how much they didn’t eat, the fact that their hat is not sitting on their head the right way, not smiling in photos, not getting updates every minute of the day or individual day post every day … basically the level of care that these parents expect is a nanny.” she said.

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“If you want personalised one-on-one care, that’s what a nanny is.”

She said it’s easy to tell if educators don’t like you as a parent, adding that some need to lower their expectations when it comes to getting feed back on their child’s day.

“You can definitely tell. When you get told they (the children) have a good day, that means they’ve had a good day. There’s nothing else to report,” she said.

“When their behaviour is questionable or goes against their usual line of behaviour, that’s when you might get a little bit more of a comment depending on your reaction.

“If you want honest feedback from your educators, don’t be an a**.”

Kobe said many parents expect childcare educators to raise their children for them.

“Believe it or not, you as a parent are the authority around your child. Your child learns boundaries and how to be a decent human being based off of what you do,” she said.

“The educators are simply reporting back their behaviour or how their day’s been and expect you, as a parent, to be able to step up and take the reins on raising your child.

“If you’re saying my child wouldn’t do that, you’re part of the problem and you are one of the parents that educators don’t want around.

“Also, your educators are not going to be honest with you, they will give you the, ‘they’ve had a good day’, even if they haven’t, because you can’t be reasoned with and you literally won’t take on any negative feedback about your child at all. Being a good parent is understanding that there’s gonna be good and bad days at home and at school.”

Kobe believes parents seeking reassurance from their childcare educators should hire nannies instead. Picture: TikTok

In response, some commenters questioned why childcare fees are high if reassurance from educators isn’t guaranteed.

“Paying as much as we do for childcare, we expect feedback and results,” one commenter said.

“Considering fees I pay for daycare it’s not hard to make sure their stuff is packed and they got clean face and hands,” a second added.

Reinforcing Kobe’s earlier talking points, another childcare educator commented that staff deserve respect, no matter how much the service costs.

“Oh my god, the people saying they pay a lot for fees, we get it! But why take it out on the staff? We don’t decide how much you pay in fees,” she said.

Other commenters were simply grateful their children are safe at their childcare centre.

“As long as my child comes home from daycare I’m happy. Everything else? Couldn’t care less,” one commenter responded.

“If my kid is alive and happy at the end of the day it’s all good. I don’t complain and I buy a good Christmas present at the end of the year,” a second added.

Originally published as This is why your childcare educators might not like you