‘I never thought I would be a toxic boy mum, but here we are’

“I love my four kids the same, but I love my son more,” the mum admits in a viral video that has the internet outraged.

Anna Saccone has four kids and talks frankly about feeling differently about her youngest, who is a boy.

“I never thought that I would be that toxic boy mum,” she said in a viral TikTok.

“I love my four kids equally, but that last little boy just hits different.

“And now I feel like I’m having this existential crisis. I swore I wouldn’t be that mum, that toxic boy mum.

“He hits his sisters, he punches them, and I think, maybe he’s having a hard day.”

But Anna’s issue was not just about how she reacted to her son’s bad behaviour, it was about her vision of the future.

“So when I think about my daughters getting married, I get excited right,” she continued.

“I think about their dresses, planning their wedding. When I think about my son’s wedding, I want to cry.”

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Mum calls out herself as toxic boy mum

While Anna was laughing throughout the video, she also realised that her feelings were a problem.

“Boy mums. We gotta realise that we are the problem,” she said.

There were over 21,000 outraged comments on the viral video.

"'Maybe he's having a bad day': this is going to teach him that when he is angry it is perfectly ok to hit people or women more specifically," one person said. 

"You're laughing like this is something funny... no it's extremely concerning," said another. 

"You don't love your kids equally, you just love your boy," was a third person's blunt reply. 

In another video, she showed herself packing up her three girls and sending them for a sleepover for the weekend.

“Getting rid of my girls for the weekend so I have the fave child all to myself,” she captioned the video.

Followers had a serious problem with Anna’s toxic boy mum status.

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#duet with @annasaccone #toxicboymom you could’ve phrased this in so many other ways. This is so sad. Please stop bullying your children for content. #annasaccone

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One woman did a duet video with Anna, saying that her girls will need therapy.

“Favouritism causes mental and behavioural issues for both the ‘favoured’ child and their siblings, through teen years and into adulthood,” the

“It’s even worse because these girls are definitely old enough to read and you just know kids at their school are going to see this stuff.”

Originally published as ‘I never thought I would be a toxic boy mum, but here we are’