Anglican Church can’t grow if it fails to accept gay reality

The other day a friend showed me photos of her friends’ same-sex wedding. Such joyful scenes as family and friends celebrated with the happy couple.

It wasn’t a church wedding, and certainly not an Anglican wedding – not even a wedding blessing. While the Anglican Church’s highest court has said it is not against the church’s constitution to bless same-sex weddings, only a handful of Australian dioceses have permitted that.

And now Melbourne Diocese – once the progressive capital of the Australian church – has elected an archbishop firmly opposed to same-sex weddings. There will be no wedding blessings here. He is quoted in last Sunday’s Age as saying that church must welcome people in same-sex relationships. But that rings hollow. How can you welcome people while damning their relationships as sinful?

The Anglican Church in Australia has turned its back on same-sex marriage. Credit: Photo: AP

The newly elected archbishop, Ric Thorpe, a bishop from London, is first and foremost a church planter. That is why his Melbourne supporters have chosen him. The church is in decline in Melbourne, with numbers of worshippers dropping and many small parishes struggling for survival. His supporters want to see significant growth in the church, and think that means planting lots of new congregations.

But will those brave new plants be attractive to Australians in the 21st century, when presumably they will be preaching against same-sex marriage, given the core group of Melbourne Anglicans who campaigned for his election hold the same view? When more than 60 per cent of Australians voted in favour of same-sex marriage in the 2017 plebiscite?

Bishop Thorpe claims the Scriptures are clear that marriage is between a man and a woman, and that cannot be set aside. Many significant scripture scholars read the Bible differently. They say the very few Bible verses that are claimed to prohibit same-sex relationships actually prohibit only promiscuous, predatory relationships.

But conservatives have latched on to same-sex prohibition as their line in the sand. Some would argue they took up the cause when they lost the debate in the 1990s about ordaining women. It has given them a stick to knock progressive Anglicans into the ground. The election of Bishop Thorpe shows they are winning.

The debate has echoes of the nasty debate that raged in the Anglican Church over divorce last century. Divorced people could not remarry in church, and often were made distinctly unwelcome in congregations. It was Melbourne Diocese in the 1970s that overturned that, and pushed the national church to change. And in 1972, Melbourne Diocese called for homosexuality to be decriminalised, eight years before the state government agreed. How sad that Melbourne has now joined the conservatives.

Bishop Thorpe is quoted as saying that the same-sex debate is “a distraction” from the message of the church. No, it is harming the church’s message. The church’s message is that God is love, and loves all people unconditionally – and that includes gay people, their spouses and their families.

Dr Muriel Porter, a Melbourne Anglican laywoman, is a commentator on religious issues.