'Can't be arsed': Teen backs out of time with grieving mum

“If a friend asked her to go out now she would immediately get up and go. Just not for me." 

A grieving mum says her daughter is “selfish” because she refused to go with her on a shopping trip. 

The shopping trip was intended to lift her spirits after some sad news. 

“I have been having a tough week as my dad has passed away,” the mum wrote.

Posting to parenting forum Mumsnet, the woman explained how she was struggling with the emotional toll.

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"I am so sad. It would be nice not to go out alone"

She says he’d been sick for a while and is in the midst of planning logistics for the funeral. Initially, her daughter agreed to tag along on the simple outing. But when the day came, she changed her mind.

“My 16-year-old daughter, who had said she would come with me and help, now says she will not,” the mum wrote.

“It’s 2pm and she is still sleeping. I asked her to come and she said she can’t be arsed.”

Despite the mother’s efforts to explain how much she’d appreciate the company, her daughter didn’t budge.

“I am so sad. It would be nice not to go out alone, but she kept saying she can’t be arsed and just continued to sleep,” she said.

“If a friend asks her to go out now she would immediately get up and go. Just not for me." 

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"Borderline abusive"

Her post prompted a divided reaction in the comments section.

Some felt the mother’s expectations were unfair.

“She is 16. She is not your emotional crutch,” one person pointed out. 

Another agreed writing: "She's not a peer. Stop treating her like one.”

“You're emotionally blackmailing her and it's borderline abusive,” a third argued.

Others, however, showed sympathy.

“Teenagers are notoriously selfish, I'm afraid,” shared one commenter. 

“Teenagers can be selfish. Under the circumstances she could make more of an effort. I'm sorry about your dad. It's a very hard time,” another sympathised. 

The mum ended her post revealing it wasn’t the first time her daughter had led her to feel this way.

“To think my daughter is cold-hearted, selfish. I am so sad. This is not the first time I felt like this about her,” the mum shared.

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Originally published as 'Can't be arsed': Teen backs out of time with grieving mum