Unpopular opinion: This is the perfect age gap between your kids

"Two under two just ain't for me," mum-of-two and sleep coach Kaitlin says in her viral video, explaining her "unpopular opinion". 

For many parents, the idea of having kids close together can be appealing. After all, it can be a great way to have your kids grow up together and hopefully form a close bond. 

But a mum on TikTok has gone viral for her "unpopular opinion" regarding age gaps between siblings. 

According to her, closer isn't always better.

And while having a larger age gap with her kids wasn't her original plan, she says she would "now choose it every time."

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2 under 2 just isn't for Kaitlin. Image: @kaitlinklimmer

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"Two under two just ain't for me"

Baby sleep coach and mum-of-two, Kaitlin Klimmer shared her thoughts on TikTok and her video now has over 200k likes.

She captioned it: "Two under two just ain't for me."

"Unpopular opinion but having a four-year age gap between your kids is the best," she explains. 

Katlin continues, "When I was trying to get pregnant with my second, we had three miscarriages and I was getting so anxious about the growing age gap between them and now that we're on the other side of that, I think the four-year age gap is like unreal, and I would choose it every time again."

She then explains why she thinks it's the perfect spacing, as her eldest was more independent and self-sufficient when her second child arrived. 

"For example, I just got finished putting my 16-month-old down for a nap and we always lie with our kids until they're asleep.

"So, I was lying with her and I fell asleep also. I woke up 20 minutes later, just not at all concerned about what my five-year-old is up to like, she's five she can hang out for half an hour by herself.

"I went to check on her and was like 'sorry I took so long', but she was just making her birthday invitations for her birthday that's in August.

"It's just... it's so nice."

Age gaps between kids can be tricky. Image: @kaitlinklimmer

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"This is only good for the parents, not the kids"

Many viewers took to the comments to share their thoughts on Kaitlin's opinion. 

Some argued that these larger age gaps result in siblings that aren't as close.

"Only good for the parents. Once [your kids] are a little older they are like built-in best friends, that was my experience with two boys 20 months apart," one woman wrote.

Another said, "As a kid with a sibling with a four-year age gap, I completely disagree with you. My sister and I were never close growing up and aren't close at all as adults."

But some agreed with Kaitlin, saying that their large sibling age gap doesn't affect them.

"I don’t think an age gap determines how close siblings will be. It’s personality, communication, how well the entire family gets along," one pointed out.

And there was this observation: "People worry about them not being friends if they’re farther apart but my sisters are six and 11 years older than me and are my BEST friends."

Another user added: "It's also great because the older one doesn't get jealous of the attention the baby is getting."

Finally, one mum enthused, "Four is amazing!! My eldest often wants to help with the youngest and is legitimately helpful. Also, the lack of dual meltdowns... one is overstimulating enough."

Originally published as Unpopular opinion: This is the perfect age gap between your kids