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What is projection? A psychologists shares giveaway sign partner is cheating

Daniel Acon described the subtle but suspicion-confirming move as “next level mind games” but warned that it doesn’t work on everyone.

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Almost nothing is as heartbreaking as finding out you’ve been cheated on – not only this completely shatters your confidence and self-esteem but also makes you unable to trust anyone ever again.

In most scenarios, cheating happens behind one’s back and the person never finds out the loved one’s been up to no good.

For those in a relationship, a psychologist has revealed the phrase you should be looking out for if you feel like your partner’s being unfaithful.

“Disclaimer: this only works if you haven’t broken their trust,’’ says Daniel Acon.

“Otherwise, they might be justified about in how they feel about you.’’

Mr Acon spoke about a theory he called ‘projecting’. Picture: Instagram.
Mr Acon spoke about a theory he called ‘projecting’. Picture: Instagram.

According to him, in most cases when your partner suddenly starts acting suspicious and doesn’t trust you, you could be in for a disappointment.

“So if you’re dating someone and they start accusing you of cheating or they’re worried that you’re talking to other people without any evidence, it usually means that they’re cheating and talking to other people.

“They’re just worried that you’re doing the same thing,’’ he explains.

In psychology, Daniel adds, this is called projection.

“People tend to project what’s inside of them unto other people.

“This is some next level mind games,’’ he sums up.

People in the comments disagreed with Mr Acon’s theory. Picture: iStock.
People in the comments disagreed with Mr Acon’s theory. Picture: iStock.

While there were those who appreciated the advice, like this person who wrote: “This is old saying, yes its true,’’ some people didn’t agree.

“This is not accurate, if the person themselves has trust issues/trauma then they question everyone, and it has nothing to do with them doing the same thing, and everything to do with them needing to heal.’’

Another Instagram user agreed, writing: “Not really. What if someone has anxiety and fear of abandonment.”

According to another critical viewer, this wasn’t the case for her: “Not really because I was constantly accusing my ex of cheating and I wasn’t cheating and I found out years later I was right they was talking to the woman I was worried about I hadn’t done anything.’’

This post originally appeared on The Sun and has been published with permission

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