‘Hottest thing ever’: How $900 male escort ‘saved’ Sydney woman’s marriage

A woman from Sydney’s eastern suburbs has revealed the unconventional $900 decision that “saved” her marriage.

A woman from Sydney’s eastern suburbs has revealed the unconventional $900 decision that “saved” her marriage.

Speaking on this week’s episode of journalist, author and former escort Amanda Goff’s – otherwise known as Samantha X – podcast, Xposed, stay-at-home mum Mischa said her marriage of a decade was headed for divorce when she and her husband decided she see a male escort.

“My life was perfect on paper, but the reality was far from the truth,” the 34-year-old told Goff.

“I met my husband on Tinder when I was 24 and looking for a fling, but I fell pregnant soon after. We wanted to keep the child, it spiralled, we had another kid and bought a beautiful house, but there was something missing.

“I dedicated all of myself physically, emotionally, and mentally to everything and everyone else but me. I had low body confidence because I had no time to exercise.”

‘My life was perfect on paper, but the reality was far from the truth.’ Picture: iStock

Mischa gained 30kg, and said she stopped making an effort with her appearance. She no longer enjoyed having sex with her husband – instead, it became something the couple would simply “get it over with” on a Friday night.

It was then that she “suggested a male escort to try and open ourselves up to other people” – having read about them in Goff’s columns, and researching services online.

“It’s transactional, there are no expectations or risks of things going wrong emotionally,” Mischa said.

To her surprise, her husband agreed that she seek one out – calling it a “great idea”.

“I met my first male escort in a hotel room in the city. He charged $900 for two hours,” she said.

“My husband knew about it every step of the way and was very supportive.”

The woman made the admission on an episode of Amanda Goff’s – otherwise known as Samantha X – podcast, Xposed. Picture: Supplied

Being with another man, Mischa said, felt “electric” and “free”.

“I walked away a different person. I cared a lot less about what other people thought of me. I felt liberated and appreciated for the first time in years. I couldn’t wipe the smile off my face for weeks,” she said.

The experience also brought her and her husband closer together – because he’d allowed her to explore herself. On one of her sessions, Mischa said he even joined her – calling it “the hottest thing ever”.

“I felt guilty at first because I’m in the minority of people who need to seek sex outside of marriage,” she admitted.

“I thought there was something wrong with me. But my marriage improved, we had better communication, and it gave us a new level of love and respect.

“My husband is who I want to be with for a very long time. We just need external connections for our marriage to work.”

‘My marriage improved, we had better communication, and it gave us a new level of love and respect.’

While her husband has also looked into booking a female escort and dating other people, he ultimately found that “he doesn’t enjoy flirting with or sleeping with anyone else”.

“He only wants me …[But] he never freaks out or gets jealous [of my being with escorts],” Mischa said.

“We’re not ready to close our marriage yet, and have no plans to. We’re going with the flow.”

Mischa’s experience is far from rare – as stigmas and cultural attitudes change, the number of people engaging in an open – or ethically nonmonogamous – relationship is on the rise, with couples exploring options outside societal norms.

Of the 50,000 Australians who took part in news.com.au’s recent Great Aussie Debate, 1.4 per cent admitted they were in an open relationship.

Unlike traditional partnerships, where sex outside of the family unit is classed as “cheating”, those who “open” their relationship are allowed to seek intimacy with other people – without ramification.