Former escort Samantha X on what women want from men

FORMER escort Samantha X has revealed what women really want, after a 19-year-old man asked for advice on why his relationships keep failing.

A FORMER high class sex worker has revealed exactly how men can seem more attractive to the opposite sex — both in appearance and personality.

An insecure male student, 19, contacted former Sydney escort Samantha X, 44, on her website to seek advice on how to get a girlfriend.

The desperate man wrote: “Women don’t seem to be attracted to me or if anything, they’d prefer to friend-zone me.

“I’m trying to balance out my social life with my academic life and so far it’s great but I would just like to be able to have a girlfriend whether long term or short term just to be able to talk and do fun activities with.

“My question to you is how can I make myself seem more attractive to women without having to do some kind of a physical makeover. All I’m doing is just being myself but that doesn’t seem to be working.”

Samantha X, who worked in the industry for six years, revealed exactly how men can boost their confidence with women.

Samantha X, author of Back on Top, on how men can be more attractive to women. Picture: Fabrizio Lipari.

She wrote: “The fact the women want to be your friend is a good thing — it means you’re a decent man. That’s half the battle.

“There is no point being attractive if you are lacking in the personality department. But looking good is important too. You say you don’t want a makeover but simple things make a huge difference.

“You’re only 19, so don’t put too much pressure on yourself, but make sure you always smell nice, trim unruly hairs, eat well and work out, and most importantly — take the pressure off.”

Samantha X advised that the man stopped worrying about whether women find him attractive for one vital reason.

She said: “Like men, women can smell desperation a mile off. Stop worrying about whether women fancy you, and instead focus on you, what you want and need and desire.

“The right woman will come to you in time. No one has their love life sorted at 19 — I’m still waiting at 44! So take the pressure off and enjoy your life.”

Samantha X said men need to stop worrying about whether women find them attractive or not. Picture: Supplied.

Previously Samantha X lifted the lid on what clients are really willing to pay the most money for, and it may surprise you.

She told The Saturday Telegraph: “The clients that I meet and the clients that are attracted to my agency, their biggest request is mature and curvy.

“I’ve learnt in the two years I’ve had the agency that I mostly employ women over 35 and curvy is the way to go.

“So for the women reading this I would really want them to embrace their age and embrace their curves because I’ve had men turn girls down for being too skinny.”

And women in their early twenties find it hard to find people who want to have sex with them.

Samantha X revealed that she can’t get work for them, as most of her clients are in their 40s, 50s and 60s, who “nine times out of 10” desire someone over 40.

She explained that hardly any 60-year-old CEOs will want to chat for four hours with someone who is the same age as their daughters.

Samantha X said young women can smell desperation a mile off.

She said: “When I see a woman that comes in here, the wrong side of 35, and not the perfect, media type body and she’s got a smile and she’s a warm person, nine times out of 10 I’m going to give her a job. That’s what men pay close to a thousand dollars for.”

Until recently, she was dating Channel Seven’s Ryan Phelan, and the pair had multiple shots together on their social media profiles, but they went their separate ways in January.

The former journalist and best-selling author, who grew up in London but now lives in Sydney.

She told how in September 2014 how boredom at work led to her transition from a divorced mum to a highly paid escort.

Samantha X pictured at her Bondi house Picture: Sam Ruttyn

She wrote in her book, Hooked — Secrets of a High Class Escort, how she would stare out the window of her Sydney office at “the grey buildings” and “fantasise about drinking champagne in a hotel room with a man”.

One day, she decided to visit a bordello on her lunch break and two days later she was having sex for money.

In December, Samantha X announced she was quitting the escort business.

She also revealed she was quitting her job to focus on running her escort agency, Samantha X Angels, which she started up in 2015.

Samantha has also offered her services as a relationship coach for blokes — on a strictly clothes-on basis, of course.

This article originally appeared on The Sun and has been republished here with permission.