‘Watch out’: Aussie expert reveals grim sign a man only wants sex

A relationship expert has shared a telltale sign that a man is only after one thing – after Aussie women rage over a common dating issue.

It’s not a rare experience for women to be asked to come over to a man’s house for a first date but now Australian women are putting their foot down about it.

Maddison Lieberwirth vented her frustration, asking if women could “denormalise” men asking women to come over without having ever met them in person.

“I’m genuinely so confused – you think that I’m going to come over to your house when we’ve never met,” she asked.

“You think that’s an appropriate first date idea? What do you mean?”

She said if someone didn’t have any money for a first date, that was more than fine, but suggest something like a walk instead.

“Not this half-arsed bullsh*t of me coming over, like what are we doing to do – like I know what you want us to do but come on, bro, are you that lazy,” she said.

“Burn it. Delete it forever.”

Another social media user, Kat, vented similar frustrations saying she was sick of men in their mid 20s to early 30s asking her to “come round” to their house.

“I don’t know you, bro! Literally, if you just had said ‘hey, would you wanna catch up for a drink’ I’ll most likely go home with you if the vibes are good,” Kat said.

“You act like I’m asking you for a goose that sh*ts gold eggs. I’m really not. It’s f***ing easy.”

Maddison Lieberwirth has slammed this dating trend. Picture: Instagram/@maddisonlieberwirth

Other social media users agreed with what Maddison and Kat were saying, with one commenting; “What do they think this is? Doordash?”

Another said: “Are some people going? Because they keep asking so confidently.”

“Do they not have any sense of danger,” another asked.

One said: “Right after I told a man I would only be willing to meet him in public, he said ‘wouldn’t it be more intimate if you just came over and I made us steak?’. I also had just told him I was vegetarian.”

But some, mainly men, were advocating that this was perfectly reasonable behaviour ahead of a first date.

“Take what you can get,” one said.

A other said: “I’m 32. can confirm we never grow up, lower your expectations or you will be alone forever.”

“So you just said you’d home with them. Why are you mad at people for skipping the bureaucracy,” another said.

Relationship expert Samantha Jayne told news.com.au men do this “because they can”.

“Some women allow this treatment so the men just get used to it and try their luck. It’s normally the same guys looking for a bit of fun, it started back in Covid when venues were not open and it has continued on,” Ms Jayne said.

She said she was sick of guys asking her to come over without meeting her. Picture: TikTok/@maddisonlieberwirth

Kat said similar things. Picture: TikTok/@no_1askedkat777

“Some men have social anxiety and don’t know better and prefer to be comfortable in their own home, but in most cases it’s a guy just wanting one thing or being lazy.”

She said it is a clear intention of the man solely wanting sex and not much else, particularly if the conversation has been short, adding women should be looking for men who put in effort for a first date.

“Even if money is a problem you can always opt for a picnic, a walk in the park or the beach. There are so many free things to do,” Ms Jayne said.

“Watch out if he is sexting you early on it’s an obvious sign of what his intentions are.

“The reality is if he has anxiety about meeting in public or for whatever reason it’s a sign he needs to look after himself and work on himself. Dating a man with anxiety that he is not willing to acknowledge or work on is hard. You’ll find very quickly he will self sabotage and pull away and this can be painful.”

She said women should be clear about boundaries as when you ask for what you want, you often get it.

“Avoid your first date being at his home at all costs. Not only for a safety reason but also what if you meet him in person and there is no attraction,” she posed the quandary.

“Look after yourself and be cautious. you don’t know this person he is simply a photo and words. Tell him you’d love to meet him and make some suggestions outside of the home.”