Woman who can’t have sex due to vaginismus finds out she’s pregnant

The 20-year-old discovered she was expecting a baby despite being “still a virgin” – and was stunned to find out how she fell pregnant.

Nicole Moore’s pregnancy was unplanned, so when the 20-year-old discovered she was expecting she was understandably shocked.

But Ms Moore had more reason than most to be surprised by the news – because she had never had penetrative sex.

Instead Ms Moore would go on to lose her virginity while five months pregnant, with the now 28-year-old since diagnosed with vaginismus.

Vaginismus is a condition which causes the vaginal wall muscles to involuntarily constrict, meaning Ms Moore was never able to insert a tampon, have a pap smear or have sex.

“I’d spent all my teenage life not being able to insert a tampon, so I knew something was not quite right,” the supply teacher from Portsmouth, England, said.

“But doctors told me I was fine, so I just believed for a while that there was something wrong with me.”

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Nicole Moore was stunned to discover she was pregnant despite never having sex. Picture: Caters News.

When Ms Moore began dating the man who would get her pregnant they would try to have sex, only for it to feel “impossible” and “like he was hitting a brick wall”.

“When I was 18, I got into a relationship with my daughter’s dad. We began trying to have sexual intercourse, he was a few years older and more experienced,” she said.

“We tried but it was impossible. I didn’t understand why it couldn’t happen.”

Ms Moore went back to the doctors to find out what was wrong and was told again she was just “extremely tight”.

So she and her boyfriend found other ways to be intimate that didn’t involve penetrative sex – which to Ms Moore’s surprise saw her fall pregnant.

“One day at work I started getting terrible heartburn and sore breasts. My boss at the time, who was a close friend and knew about my situation, said she thought I could be pregnant,” Ms Moore said.

“I laughed and said there was no way, as I was still a virgin and never had penetrative sex.

“But she said it was possible if there had been any fluids near my vagina, despite not actually having intercourse.

“I did a pregnancy test on my lunch break that day at work and it was positive.”

Ms Moore said she was “shocked and confused” by the positive result, as well as fearful about giving birth given her struggle having sex.

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Ms Moore was terrified at the thought of giving birth given she had never had sex. Picture: Caters News.

“All I kept thinking was how on earth am I going to deliver this baby if I couldn’t even have intercourse,” she said.

“I was worried my partner would think I’d cheated on him, as it seemed so impossible.

“But thankfully he knew me and my body, and he didn’t doubt me for a second.”

Ms Moore said her pregnancy led to jokes that she was “the Virgin Mary”, which she admits “really makes me laugh”.

But it was also difficult for Ms Moore to get medical professionals to believe her when she told them she had never had sex.

But after seeking a second opinion it was confirmed that while rare, it was possible to get pregnant without having penetrative intercourse if the sexual activity introduced fluids to the vaginal area.

“My boyfriend at the time often had to come with me to appointments to explain that we really hadn’t had sex,” Ms Moore said.

“I remember going for a check-up at the hospital and not being able to have an internal examination because the nurse couldn’t insert her finger.

Ms Moore was finally diagnosed with vaginismus at four months pregnant. Picture: Caters News.

Ms Moore says her daughter is her ‘little miracle’. Picture: Caters News.

“I tried explaining to her that I still hadn’t had sex and she said to me, ‘Don’t be ridiculous, of course you have’.”

Ms Moore was finally diagnosed with vaginismus when she was four months pregnant and lost her virginity a month later.

She gave birth to her daughter Tilly, now eight, without any issues either.

“With the help of the therapist, I began using dilators and could see a light at the end of the tunnel,” she said.

Ms Moore is no longer with Tilly’s father but said he was “always supportive” of her battle with vaginismus.

“I still suffer with vaginismus but I now know how to deal with it and it definitely isn’t as bad,” she said.

“I still can’t do certain things, like insert a tampon, but I feel very fortunate that I am now able to have a normal sex life.

“Tilly is definitely my little miracle. We’ve got the best life together and having her was the best thing I’ve ever done.”