Husband’s ‘disgusting’ sex request weeks after giving birth angers

Laura Byrne and Brittany Hockley are “mad” after a husband said his sex life was “bad” as his wife won’t give in to his bedroom demands.

A mother who recently welcomed her third child has detailed the “disgusting” bedroom demand her husband issued just weeks after giving birth – leaving people horrified.

The exasperated woman revealed she’d suffered a grade 3B tear during her labour, which requires at least six weeks of abstinence in order for the body to fully heal and recover.

But despite her painful medical state, she said her husband had grown increasingly frustrated at their lack of sexual contact in the four weeks since their child was born, with the woman explaining he’d insisted there was “something wrong” with his wife.

The relationship struggle was shared by the Life Uncut Podcast after the unidentified woman wrote in for the “dilemma” segment, leaving hosts Laura Byrne and Brittany Hockley absolutely horrified.

A husband’s ‘disgusting’ sex request after his wife gave birth to their third child has angered women. Picture: Life Uncut Podcast

“My partner last night said our sex life is sh*t and it’s affecting him mentally,” the letter, read by Hockley, began.

“I gave birth four weeks ago and have a grade three B tear so can’t have sex anyway, not that I even want to.

“He said he doesn’t want to spend time with me because I never want to ‘do it’, or even give him oral sex.”

The stressed out mum went on to state that while she won’t give in to his demand because she currently has no sexual desire so soon after giving birth, there was actually a pattern in his behaviour.

“I have difficulty with sexual intimacy with him because after our last two kids I felt really pressured into having sex again three weeks after birth,” she continued.

“Where do I go from here?

“I feel like I have no sexual drive towards him, but he thinks I have something wrong with me.”

Brittany Hockley read their listener's dilemma out on the Life Uncut Podcast she co-hosts with Laura Byrne. Picture: Life Uncut Podcast

Byrne, who shares two daughters with her husband Matty Johnson, was quick to state the situation made her “so mad”.

“I hate that the only response to this is ‘what an absolute piece of sh*t your husband is’ and that’s because you have three children with him now,” she stated.

“If he considers and cares about you so little in this time when you have just had a baby, especially four weeks post-partum, that he’s putting his own sexual gratification over your healing, your mental recovery … all of the things … then he is a selfish jerk.

“You said that in the past you felt pressured to have sex, that’s disgusting.”

She went on to slam the man for making his partner feel like she “needed to make him happy at a time when you are supposed to be the priority”.

Byrne’s reaction was overwhelmingly shared by others, with many weighing in on the situation, including Melbourne obstetrician and gynaecologist Dr Joseph Sgroi who described the additional needs of a partner [post-birth] as “suffocating”.

“The post partum period is a very difficult time,” he told news.com.au.

“A woman’s body is totally consumed by nurturing a baby in the womb and then continuing this after the baby is born.

“For a partner there can be a sense of loss, a loss of the intimacy that created the baby in the first place.”

Melbourne obstetrician and gynaecologist Dr Joseph Sgroi argued men need more education about the toll childbirth takes on a woman’s body. Picture: Instagram

But Byrne, as well as others online, said this argument peddled misogyny in relationships. Picture: Life Uncut Podcast

Dr Sgroi stressed there is “no excuse” for the man’s behaviour and pointed out there was another “underlying” issue at play.

“I totally agree he lacks sensitivity. But most importantly understanding,” he continued.

“What we fail to do is educate men on what actually happens to a woman mentally and physically after birth.

“Yes he is a prick, but he is an uneducated prick, and perhaps with understanding the couple can move forward positively.”

This argument fell flat among many who claimed the woman needed “support to get out”, but Dr Sgroi remained firm.

“I make no excuse for his actions, but my sense is we should try and prevent this crap behaviour in the first place,” Dr Sgroi told news.com.au.

“There’s no doubt that the cohesive behaviour the partner was exhibiting is likely to have been evident throughout the couples whole relationship.

“And this of itself is something that needs to be addressed.”

Regardless, women were furious at the man’s actions, claiming it was “awful” to expect sex from anyone – including your wife.

“This is sexual coercion and it sounds like just the tip of the iceberg,” one reasoned.

“Perfect example of why so many women suffer from post-partum depression because not only is she coping with the mental load of a newborn and two other children, but also the guilt of her partner making her feel worthless,” another said.

As one raged: “Pushing someone to have sex is a great way to make them not want to have sex, regardless of the situation. But then add on that they have kids together and she’s literally just given birth and had a newborn and she’s physically, mentally and hormonally recovering. That’s disgusting.”

Byrne also responded to Dr Sgroi, who had shared a similar comment on the brand’s Instagram page, stating the real issue was that many men still view women’s bodies as a vessel for their own pleasure.

“I don’t think this has to do with male education around birth, as much as it has to do with male education around misogyny, women not being the property of men and the purpose of women’s bodies not being for male gratification,” she wrote, adding: “Oooft I’m still mad.”