How to snap out of your self-destructive addiction to faster living

STUFF like your iPhone should make life easier but instead you've become a slave to fast-paced living. Can't remember things, think creatively or focus? Read this.

Dr Brown asks what are the costs of speed addiction?

A PATIENT arrived late, tossed his cellphone on the sofa and pleaded: "Can you help me control my phone? It's ruining my life."

What is supposed to help us is hurting us. What is supposed to free us ends up enslaving us. That's the paradox of addiction. Whatever the lure, it seems so good, so positive, so helpful and so harmless. And then we're hooked.

So is society. Caught in a chaotic, frenzied spiral of a new addiction, people are chasing money, power, success and a wilder, faster pace of life. Just like any addiction, people are out of control in their behaviours, feelings and thinking, yet they believe they are normal.

This is progress. You always move forward and there are no limits to how far you can go or how fast you can get there. Don't pause, don't reflect. You win or lose. You'll fall behind and fail if you stop moving. Fast at any cost is the mantra of a stressed and distressed society today.

Over-scheduling and double-booking have been signs of progress and belonging for two decades. Practices that used to cause embarrassment became proudly rationalised as multi-tasking, a new skill to master. You juggle 10 plates while you brag about your 90-hour week and pop your Ambien to get to sleep.

This is success. Progress equals fast, which equals success, a recipe for addiction.

Dr Brown asks what are the costs of speed addiction?

Society is now dominated by beliefs, attitudes and ways of thinking that elevate the values of impulse, instant gratification and loss of control to first line actions and reactions. "I want it now!" or "Do it now!" are valued mantras for today's with-it person, young or old.

Add to instant action the belief that there are no limits to human power, no limits to action, no limits to success. Fuelled by the grandiosity and omnipotence of these beliefs, people get high on the emotions of endless possibility with no need to ever stop or slow down.

What are the costs of speed addiction? We live under a weight of demands, real and imagined, that is debilitating.

We see an alarming increase in stress-related disorders of all kinds for all ages, beginning with elementary school-age children who are struggling with obesity, depression, anxiety, attention disorders and all kinds of learning disabilities, a list of problems for all ages.

In a vicious circle, the exhausting fast pace of life promotes overstimulation and overscheduling, which become chronic stressors that lead to behavioural, mood and attention disorders. We cannot see that we are causing our physical, emotional and behavioural health problems as we try harder to go faster, and then turn to medication to treat the unforeseen consequences.

We believe we should be able to go this fast and there is something wrong with us if we can't keep up.

We also see changes in our attention and thinking. Technological advances were supposed to free up creative thinking, but the mass of incoming information has actually eroded our attention and our creativity. People have less time to reflect on anything as they become dominated by a need to act, a need to be online, robotically always checking. Multi-tasking stimulates internal chaos and fragmented attention.

It may also interrupt and diminish learning, productivity and even friendships. Switching your attention reduces your efficiency and skill. You can't concentrate on anything.

Just feel like you're part of the rat race? Dr Brown has some great tips.

So, try interrupting your impulsive behaviour. Turn off your phone for one hour each day to focus on a book, conversation with your family or friends, or to cook a meal. A small start is your best next step and it counts.

Researchers note that this push for speed is changing the way people think. The need to be efficient and instant leads to a dumbing down of information intake so that people become scanners and "decoders" of information, cruising horizontally across the screen to pick up bytes, rather than delving towards a deeper understanding.

Maybe the biggest cost we've encountered already is the harm to human relationships. Instead of enhancing close bonds, technology has facilitated avoidance of direct person-to-person contact, which takes too much time.

We maintain the illusion that we're connected more closely than ever by the number of Facebook "likes" we accumulate. But it's all fast, now, this instant. Everything is impulse. Our sense of connection exists in the action, not an accumulated, deepening experience.

Baby Boomers know what they've lost. The younger generation is growing up with an addictive inner pressure and chronic stress as normal.

When they can't go any faster and they can't slow down, it will be a hard road to pick up the developmental pieces they've missed in our wild rush for progress.

This story originally appeared on the New York Post.

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